SD turned 11 last week. That weekend, she saw her mom for a supervised visit. Something that irritated me was she wrote SD a 3 page "love letter" for her birthday. The thought is great and "sweet" if you will...but what was said in it does NOT fit SD at allll....I know Most parents think the world of their child, but this is a bit much...

DH read the letter before SD did..this is to ensure that BM is not sharing anything toxic with SD. DH let me read the letter as well. The letter was basically about how great SD is, how beautiful she is etc etc...

Now, I'm not sure who BM gets to see when she is visiting SD, but I know that for the past 8 years I have been around SD, she is not any of those things that BM described.
The letter starts off telling SD how blessed BM is to be her mother, about how she is so thankful god chose her to be her mom. She talks about how beautiful SD is in and out. She tells SD that she is the wittiest, funniest, most amzing being she has ever met. BM tells SD that SD is the most loving, caring, and thoughtful person on the planet. BM goes on to tell SD how she is so proud of her for doing so well in school and about how intelligent SD is. BTW...SD is struggling in school due to lack of motivation and caring and BM has seen all of SD's school work, so I don't know where BM is coming from. Bm also told SD that "I can not wait to see what God has planned for you. You have been chosen to make a difference in his Kingdom" Twilight Zone!
BM tells SD that "You're the only person on this planet that walks into a room and comands attention and gets it." Ummm...WTF?! No. BM also says that SD "can walk into a room and everyone lights up and is drawn to you." No again. "You are so charismatic that you can make the grumpiest of grumpiest of all men smile and melt" OMFG. The letter goes on and on. Like I said, it's thoughtful, but not truthful. I don't think BM knows her child.
Here is the real SD: She's hateful, mean, manipulitive, angry etc etc.. This is the child who swears she hates her 6 year old half sister. This is the child who writes journal entries about "Never being nice to little 'DD6' " and leaves them laying out for people to see. This is the child who has written about hating me. I found a very large buck knife in SD's jeans while doing laundry(Scary). This is the child who refuses to speak to anyone who is not her daddy. This is the child who is disrepectful to people who care about her. This is the child that has zero manners. This child can not light up a room. This is the child who has stolen her little sisters allowance and denied it. This is the child who wrote a journal entry that talked about her dad being a bitch because he called her out on stealing..She left the journal entry ripped out of the journal and in my truck for me to find. (I NEVER told DH about fidning, it would break his heart) SD is a child who hates anyone who knows whats best for her. She is jealous of DD6's good grades and compliments from friends, family, and teachers. SD seems to hate being around "this family"

This child is not beautiful inside or out. She is ugly on the inside. This is a child I am afraid to leave our children alone with (Which I don't) This child is serverly corrupted and it scares the hell out of me. Unless BM is proud of all that, then ..No, BM, you are wrong.