She signed the divorce papers, finally they've been split up 4 years now, she started the divorce and just dragged it on and on and on, just to screw with SO and because well he had no way to fight. He thought because he had no lawyer he just had to take it. I came along and taught him documentation, and pro se. He got a great parenting plan even if it was less detailed than he wanted, he can beat her with it, until she gets right or has enough contempt to get it changed. The divorce she tried again to drag it out (or her lawyer who has gone senile) grounds have bee heard twice through all this, SO had already signed the divorce papers (which I warned him wait till BM did first) then she decides they still have to do grounds, and schedules another hearing. On his own SO got mad, figured out how to prove they'd done grounds, got the transcripts, marched to the lawyers office and said, "there grounds, right there page 3 both of us under oath, I highlighted it for you, your welcome for doing your job tell her to sign it's over."
She tried to text him that now she wants cs (50/50 and he is residential and unemployed so he'd get cs but didn't want to "push it") and he told her that she was welcome to but he'd counter-file and being that he has the kids more, and makes less money SHE would pay HIM, so she could go sign stop wasting her bf's money on the lawyer and quit complaining she's still "stuck" married and sign the damn papers! She must of signed the next day, it cleared the courts yesterday. I teasingly asked SO if now that he was legally divorced did he want some times to go be single? He said "I've been single, married or no we split a long time ago, we both dated, I have you I don't want single."
Darn right he don't lol. First thing out of half the people we know and my kids mouths is "so when are you two getting married?" Me "We're not, not any time soon, he just got out of a wreak why would either of us who've been burned want to jump back in we don't need a marriage to be together, we can just be together and love what we have."
I'm so glad for now this is over, one less thing he has to stress over, one less thing I am working on to help him. I love him so much and he seemed so happy to finally be legally cut of her he seemed more relaxed last night it was really nice.