So my 10 year old step daughter has had some issues with showering . over the last 6-8 months, she has failed to stay on top of showering and brushing her teeth on her own. I have talked with her about how important as a girl to keep our bodies clean etc and she says she understands but fails to use soap or just fails to shower at all if she is not with us. She stays every other weekend with her grandparents on her mother’s side. WE are upset with them for not making her shower but also with her since she knows the rules. WE have tried everything to make her learn and nothing is working.