SD doeant remember anything we tell her to do.
We have tries giving her daily chores on a chore chart but it was too frustrating to have to constantly remind her to do everything. So we stopped that and Just have her 2 chores each day after school. To feed and water the dogs and the dishes . She is 11. She will have every excuse in the book for why ahe hasn't done it. Taking thing away does nothing unless you literally take everything away. Any suggestions of what to do to have her feel that what we have asked is important to her?
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Give her a taste of her own
Give her a taste of her own medicine. . .
SD: "What's for lunch/dinner?"
Kimmy: "Oh I forgot to make it"
SD: "What are you getting me for my birthday?"
Kimmy: "What birthday?"
I don't remember my parents
I don't remember my parents ever caving on me because it was a "frustrating" to have to remind me to do things, I was a stubborn kid, they were more stubborn. Figure out what is MOST important to her & take that away, and don't accept excuses.
I was grounded a lot, nothing worse for me than being stuck in the house. If I decided to push the issue, no tv, push farther, no phone. I can't say that this made me into a 100% compliant kid, but I was aware there were going to be consequences for my actions, it was up to me whether or not I wanted to face them. When my friends and I talk about these things I like to say that my parents gave me ehough rope to hang myself, I decided whether or not to tie it around my neck.
This is how it was with me as
This is how it was with me as a kid, too. Same thing for my sons when they were growing up. But skids??? Nope, they don't have any chores. SS14 will walk right past the empty trash cans at the curb and not bring them up. If it snows, he disappears to a friend's house in the off chance he might get asked to help shovel. Pick up dog poop? Yeah right! Not unless there's money in it. He has to do his own laundry, and is supposed to clean his own bathroom. He washes his clothes because he wouldn't want other kids to see him in dirties, but can't manage to do his bedding or towels. He does not clean his bathroom, his dad ends up doing it for him (and doesn't do it well).