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Surprise! BM didn't keep her word!

KiFire's picture

Last week SD7 was "too sick" to come over. FHD let it go after getting BM to agree, on a recorded phone call (she knew) that he could have SD this weekend as make-up time. Saturday comes and GBM calls FDH to tell him he isn't getting SD because she's got other plans. FDH is pissed and tries to argue but GBM just shouts over him until he gives up.

He tries to call the number BM called him with the week before, it was the phone of some other relative. We're both blocked from her FB so no messages can go through there, she 'doesn't have' an email or a cell or landline. I guess the relative called GBM? I don't know, a few hours later she's blowing up his phone screaming at him about how he's a liar and a controlling asshole ect. She claims to have two witnesses to BMs phone call where BM NEVER EVER said FDH could have a makeup weekend for the missed weekend.

When FDH says "I'm sorry GBM but I recorded the call, BM consented to the recording at the beginning of the call, so it will be coming with me to the contempt" and she doesn't 'give a fuck what stupid shit FDH recorded because she has TWO WITNESSES!' We did get SD on Sunday at 930am. but we had to bring her home early because she's on a once-s-day nebulizer treatment. But GBM wouldn't give FDH the medication, they need "to make sure she has it" and he will be abusive if he doesn't bring her home on time.

Oh, he was also yelled at for not coming to visit SD while she was sick. He asked how he was supposed to visit her when he doesn't even know where BM LIVES. "Well she was with me! all you had to do was call or come by" FDH was pretty pissed by this point and said "Well if she was too sick to come over here I assumed she couldn't go to your house either. Thanks for telling me you kept my kid out of spite, I'll see you tomorrow" and hung up on her

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lac925's picture

"instead she drugs her up and sends her to us"

I-m so happy At least your BM gives her child medication. Ours would rather spend CS on herself instead of wasting it on medicine for the kids because "your dad will have some" SMH

whatwasithinkin's picture

I have no idea why over and over again on this sight everyone lets Mommy dictate what happens with Daddy's schedule. Let me give you a word of advice, start logging the bullshit in a book. Judges dont care about recordings what they want to see is dates times ect he was denied time. she does it three times you file contempt, you go to court. judge slaps her hand, you leave you start again she does it three times you file again...rinse and repeat. it does not take long for them to get that if they continue to screw you you are going to file and it will most likely stop

Journey1982's picture

I agree with you whatwasithinkin..... Men give exs the perceived power. No wonder BMs run wild all the time.

KiFire's picture

BM 'doesn't have' email and when he asked for a set time for him to call SD and that BM have to email him any and all communication, especially doctors appointments her lawyer said it was all unneeded and the judge gave FDH a stink eye saying some shit about how BM wouldn't be so unreasonable to need anything like that written. 6 months later we're at the point we have been, BM moved, changed her number, blocked him on social media, 'doesn't have' an email address, and makes him talk to the GBM. Pick ups and drop offs are at GBMs. She's removed FDH from all of SD's Doctors files and put her BF in as the father so FDH can't even get info direct anymore. At one point she was asked ot text or email him the appointment information and she said she wasn't his secretary.

We have dragged her in for contempt multiple times, she get's told to behave, this past time was the first time FDH was even awarded the make-up time he asked for. He needs a lawyer and a different judge but a lawyer is 5k we don't have. He hasn't seen a single one willing to take payment plans, just retainers.

KiFire's picture

Well this last time we managed to get a reduced price meeting with one before court... he told us what FDH needed and some better way's to phrase stuff when talking to the mediator. We will probably try to do that again as the meetings only cost us about $100 for an hour. there is a brilliant woman I'd love to have FDH use, the woman my mother used... but she's $250 just for an hour consult + ghostwritten request.