More Nightmares
UGH SO needs to go to court in the worst way and I cant wait because even though the men do get screwed in court it would actually benefit him and put BM in her place.
SO works seasonal so during a couple months of the year he only has limited days to see SC. Any way today has just been so much unnecessary drama. I feel so bad for SC and SO. So im gonna give you guys the scoop and I hope I can articulate this so that the full amount of crazy is translated.
okay, to start today was SO planned day to see SC. there was a big blizzard and for the first half of the day everyone was pretty much stuck. in turn, SO told BM "if the roads clear up I will take her out". the roads did clear up. SO called SC and told her to be ready to go, at which time, SC asked if her half brother could come along. SO said if it was okay with BM.
Next thing BM is FLIPPING saying that he invited SC half brother and was all upset that he didn't ask her etc etc. I do see her point in a way but also these kids are 12 and 11. They should know to ask their mother in my opinion. Also, these kids are obviously doing the kid thing and playing the situation which..kids will be kids.
So does BM say to other child "you didn't ask me there fore you wont be going" no no no! She blames SO for not asking her!!! Then tells SO he wont be taking his kid out!! WTF after bitching and moaning while hes working hes not spending enough time.
BM said to SO that SC now doesn't want to go out with him while SC is messaging him asking him if he is still taking her out. BM is going on about making her other children which aren't SO's feel left out. Among other things blaming him telling him he made other child feel like no one wants him. When the whole time SO had no problem other child coming with, BM did!!!
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Agreed ^^. My own exh will do
Agreed ^^. My own exh will do this discuss things with the kids and not ask me, the adult. Example, DD calls DS tells him they are on their way to get him (she's nearly 18 and choose to go over after running her errands and informed me.) It is 30 min before the court ordered pick up time. DS had just started a show, and not once was it asked of me (I also have sole custody) I text the ex and informed him that he had not discussed an early pick up and CO time was 30 min away. That if he wanted an early pick up this was the point where he should ask. Did he? No he got pissy said fine he'd get him at the CO'd time then said he knew I'd do just what I did. Oh noes I followed the co!
Kids don't get to make all decisions and he should of communicated with BM first and should of said as much. When my kids ask to go to their dads early or an extra day I don't just decide I say "let me check with your dad first" and then I check. He either needs a CO, or needs to learn to communicate better.
Here some advice for your DH,
Here some advice for your DH, have him say to your SC "Let me ask your mother first." I'm pretty sure that your DH hates having to talk to the BM, my DH hates it too, but kids will play sides (asking one parent but not the other for things). If he says "Let me ask your mother first." then the SC can't avoid it and it prevents all sorts of drama.
oh no they had been talking
oh no they had been talking all day about this. at the last minute the SC wanted her brother to come along, because they are 11 and 12 I didn't think he was in the wrong for telling them to ask the mother. maybe Im wrong
Your DH isn't wrong at all
Your DH isn't wrong at all hun. My advice is to help in the event your SC doesn't ask, and to cover all the bases. The BM i have to deal with use to do the same thing, that's why DH started saying "Let me ask your mother first."
yeah that's exactly how I
yeah that's exactly how I felt. its really sad for SC she probably feels guilty for wanting to see her father