I know that this question has been posed before but how does one get over the resentment that comes from years of being on an emotional rollercoaster caused by your DH? (you can refer back to my previous blogs, there is only a couple)

DH and I, over the last couple of years have gone to numerous counseling sessions. He could always "talk the talk" but when it came time to implement any strategies, he failed miserably. It wasn't until I told him in March that I had an exit plan in place that he finally and truly stepped up to the plate.

It's 6:30 in the morning and I've been awake since 2am. I've come to the awful conclusion that my marriage is over and all I can feel is gut wrenching grief.My DH says that he wants me and wants this to work but he is not present at all in our relationship. There is no intimacy left and it seems to me that our life together is very superficial.
Oh, the physical intimacy is there (we've always been very good at that) but nothing of the beautiful emotional intimacy we once shared remains...

I have recently been reading a lot of comments about sd and biodads relationships.....

you know the situation where dads are completely tied up in their little princesses to the point where they have no parental authority whatsoever..these children run the show, are subject to no consequences for their actions, and make life a gut-churning melodrama for everyone involved.

Last nite I showed my husband this site. I wanted him to know that we weren't the only ones out there with these kinds of problems.
I let him see the postings that I reacted particularly strongly to, and my responses to them.
Of course, I tend to gravitate to those postings that talk about bioparents not stepping up and actually parenting their children. That has been my own personal nightmare and, it is made even more urgent by the fact that I have 2 children of my own.