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BM set up voice mail....... Part 2! New Ideas

kayjoy21's picture

Submitted by kayjoy21 on Sun, 11/14/2010 - 8:28am

So I ask you guys yesterday your thought on what we should do about the voicemail we got from BM that we belive was a set up. All of you told me to ignore it, thats what me and my DH were leaning towards. I told you that my mom said that we also needed to leave it alone. Then we were at dinner last night talking to my mom and some friends about it this is what we got from them.

If you leave it alone shes going to know you got it and you just dont want a fight or problems and she knows it bugged us.

If my DH calls and says we got a message from you but couldnt understand anything on the message is everything ok with the girls? This way if it was a set up it will piss her off that it didnt work and we couldnt hear anything.

I had never thought about it like that. So what do you guys think now? I want it to bug her either way. I know for some of you I shoulnt care about bugging her or making her feel bad but with this yes!

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sixteensmom's picture

Submitted by sixteensmom on Sun, 11/14/2010 - 9:27am

Your mom and her friends are too logical and normal. Lol.
Ignore it, I promise it will make her crazy wondering if u got it and shell do ot again and give u lots more ammo for court someday.

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Submitted by N8tiveButt3rfly on Sun, 11/14/2010 - 11:05am

I have to say that I'm the kind of person who would confront it head on because let's face it, she already got the reaction she was hoping for. She may not know that you are thinking about it continually but I'm sure she has a pretty good idea. I would ask her what her intention was. I would say, "Hey, we received this message on our machine that was rather long and filled with some pretty immature stuff, we were just wondering if it was done purposefully and if it was, what exactly was the point because we don't understand?" I would also make it seem like your question was after an thought, like you almost forgot to bring it up in the first place because it was so insignificant.

I've only had to do this once with SD's BM because she actually had the good graces to be embarrassed by her own behavior. She acted like a child and so we treated her like one and she is quite a bit older than DH and I. She hasn't tried to upset the household in a rather long time now. She calls, talks to SD and that's that.

Just a thought... Smile

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Submitted by caregiver1127 on Sun, 11/14/2010 - 2:01pm

I would still ignore it - that will drive her crazy - I know it will because that is what we do to BM's stupid calls - once she called my DH and was a complete and utter bitch and I just erased the message before he got it and never told him and about 3 months later she asked him about it and he was like what - what are you talking about I never got a message like that - and she started sputtering about me getting it and erasing it and DH said she doesn't have my code for my cell phone so how could she? (Which of course I do but he does not know) He then said whatever it was I don't care and leave me the hell alone! She stopped leaving nasty messages after that it took the winds out of her sails!!