OK... so I am 41 and I just got married. Me and my husband dated a year before we got married. He has a 10 and a 12 year old daughter. We get along good. But I times I soooo feel like I am in over my head. I have NEVER been a parent before and I consider myself a bit selfish about my time. I like to enjoy life.... scuba dive, travel, fine dining... well, you can't do that when every weekend you have kids. I am not used to having to deal with whining, or temp tantrums and in-laws...lol. Our 12 yr old SD wants to live with us and I am pretty sure she doesn't want her sister to move in.