I was a stepmother to three children, two being 21 and 23 now, (23 yr old lived with us p/t with her daughter) and the other step being 16. They were all under 18 when I became involved with their dad 8 yrs ago. My 16 yr old lived their also & due to economy, my 2 adult children My older one had a child that stayed their every other week end. The stepkids mom an alcoholic/useless/selfish. My kids dad alcoholic/uninvolved. My bf became my best friend when we met and I love him so much. The problems started when I moved in with him 5 yrs ago.