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Court orders or no court order

kaikicking's picture

Can things work and appropriate boundaries be set without a court order?

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mamacat_30's picture

In theory I would say yes, but it's better to be safe than sorry. Things might seem amicable now, but you never know when things can just sail off into the deep end.

hereiam's picture

Many have said, "But we were getting along so well and all was going good." And then, they weren't and it wasn't. It is best to have a court order to fall back on.

step off already's picture

My ex and I did our divorce on our own and just paid a lawyer to file the final paper work for us. We've since modified our agreement verbally and make changes as we need to. I would never consider taking him to court or serving him. I just speak to him and vice versa when we have an issue, a concern, an idea or need to adjust things.

DH and BM though, is a complete different story. Anything that is NOT implicitly stated in the order is up for argument.

12yrstepmonster's picture

My CO read I had full custody. ex had reasonible visitation based on my discretion.

Of course it was 19 years ago.

A) I am a COD and knew the importance of both parents.

Dirol my mother sat us both down and said you won't screw up my granddaughter

Once we got thru the first year the focus was on what was best for our daughter. And I understood I could totally PAS my kid and hr stood no chance. And we all would loose.

We did what was right by her. However both parents have to respect the other as the parent.

As I always said I divorced him asy husband not as her father. We made it work.