I sent BM a message
on myspace. I'm just really tired of the drama and the cloud that it causes in my relationship with FH. I totally let BM have power over my feelings and I know that is wrong..I've always been the type of person that hates to be on the outs with anyone...I have no enemies that I know of - except for BM. I've gone this road before..made "peace" with BM and than she has turned around and backstabbed me or just acted up..this time.. I just sent a simple note that said "look..we don't have to be friends or like one another..but to spend time on this drama is a waste of energy. I no longer care one way or the other what you do..so I will waste no more of my energy on dealing with it, thinking about it, or reacting to it..I suggest you follow my footsteps..all that should matter is that your son is happy when in our home".
She is online but hasn't responded..this is typical of her..she won't respond. Not with a negative or positive answer...which is fine because I took the high road and said my peace. Whatever she chooses to do from now on just makes the drama 100% on her end. I WILL not stoop to her level anymore..not more blogs on my myspace about her, no more obsessing over it or bringing it up with FH. IF she decides to continue to blare the horn at me I will just smile and wave and perhaps I will take another steptalk member's advice to file a police complaint as this type of behavior can be distractive to driving.
I called FH at work and told him I sent it..and read it to him word for word. I told him that I expect she'll call him and I expect his full support on this..that I have done nothing to her but been the brunt of her actions...that he supports my writing her and what I said and that if she is truly over him than I should not be a 2nd thought to her..that ALL that SHOULD matter is that their son is happy when in our home.
Let's see how it goes over. I feel better already..I have transferred the negative energy she sent my way into positive energy and transferred it back to her.
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If she responds, try to
If she responds, try to stick to your word of not spending any more time or energy on her, and don't reply back!
"You never realize how short a month is until you pay child support"
I am not
sure that if my sm wrote that that I would respond either, hopefully she understands why you were feeling so frustrated and reads through that to see that maybe you guys can start again
"The beauty of life is, while we cannot undo what is done, we can see it, understand it, learn from it and change, So that every new moment is spent not in regret, guilt, fear or anger, but in wisdom, understanding, and love." -Jennifer Edwards
she will know
exactly why I'm frustrated because of her constant harassing me and her constant actions towards me on a personal level that cause drama..I've done nothing to this woman except get engaged to the man that she wanted and could never pin down. I don't want to "start" again with her..I don't care for her but I DO want peace in my home and in my neighborhood (we live within two minutes of each other).
"He grew up in my heart, not my belly"
Thata Girl!!
Let her know yur done....I found the best thing I did with my BM was let her think it didn't matter one way or another what she did to try to get a reaction....I would not give her one...A person can only try for so long Gestalt, even Kenny Rogers knew when to fold em and go home....some people don't want resolution, they only desire drama as they have nothing else to do with their lives....when BM had her "thing" of the moment was was happy...we never heard from her...when SHE was miserable, we all had to be miserable....not any more...step life is tough enough without unneccessary meddling
"there are three sides to every story....your side, my side and the truth :)"