There's so much background to my story that I'll just have to post it in spurts I guess because I don't really know where to start. Anyways, I am 35, married 1 yr to my second husband, 38. We lived together for 1.5 yrs before marriage. I have a 12 yr old son who is an A student and wins school awards for his behavior. I have a 9 yr old step son who is causing me to rethink my life. He supposedly has ADHD but I wonder if it is really just the way he has been raised. He is so NOT thoughtful or considerate of the feelings of others.