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justmakingthebest's picture

Submitted by justmakingthebest on Sun, 07/18/2021 - 11:41am

So, we have one of those couches that has an arm rest with a cubby. I keep my kindle in there most of the time. I usually just use it to download books and read during football season...

Anyway, as I posted before about getting woken up by the cops with SS16 getting picked up, we took his cell phone, Apple watch and burner phone (bm is so thoughtful).

My kids have been at their dads until yesterday and DD13 just came downstairs asking why my kindle was under their sink. Yep. SS swiped it. So now the question is, what was he doing and who was he talking to on it? Did he friend BM on Facebook so she could screenshot? Would I be alerted other ways? What else can he do and send to her on it??

 

I am so pissed right now. I was going to give his phone back today but now I am PISSED! He is so deceitful! I checked the history on the internet and didn't see anything but there is an incognito option so there wouldn't be anything shown if he used that.

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thinkthrice's picture

Submitted by thinkthrice on Sun, 07/18/2021 - 12:03pm

To contact the mothership is strong.

And I wouldn't believe that phony story about wanting to join the military either.  He knows which side his bread is buttered on.

Time to lock up the Kindle and anything else that could be used to give a report back.

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Submitted by SteppedOut on Sun, 07/18/2021 - 12:10pm

Yep. This kid is rotten to the core. Total loss. 

Might pop up in "adulthood" for "help"...aka money every now and then. 

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Submitted by justmakingthebest on Sun, 07/18/2021 - 12:39pm

I agree. Lost cause and rotten to the core. Rules just don't apply to him.

 

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Submitted by SteppedOut on Sun, 07/18/2021 - 2:54pm

I get it, your husband is military and doesn't get much time off. But damn. I hope this is the last time he has visitation when he can't be there. It has gotten to thr point (past really), that this is just too much to ask of you. 

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Submitted by advice.only2 on Sun, 07/18/2021 - 12:14pm

I would think he's more getting in touch with friends back home or his girlfriend.  

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Submitted by justmakingthebest on Sun, 07/18/2021 - 12:38pm

I wish I could believe that. I'm just not sure. 

DH is still sleeping, he is on 7-day a week Mids right now, he won't be up for another hour or 2. SS is asleep too. I am not sure what I am going to do but I am fuming!

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Submitted by lieutenant_dad on Sun, 07/18/2021 - 1:14pm

Wake their arses up!

Your DH has already let you deal with SS's crappy behavior alone. His crappy behavior also lost you sleep. Stop allowing your DH to skate through this visit just because he's working long shifts. He wanted SS there, he fought to get SS there, and now he needs to handle SS being there.

ETA: Red Bull and 5 Hour Energy exist for a reason. Your DH won't be discharged for one bad night. Sure, he might get punished in some other way, but perhaps having to deal with punishment for SS's behavior will be the kick in the arse he needs to let SS have it.

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Submitted by Esperanza on Sun, 07/18/2021 - 12:53pm

Oh.my.god that's such a big invasion of privacy. I would be fuming !! I mean potentially he could have done whatever, from snooping around, sending information to BM, even like online shopping or whatever. 
He is getting worse and worse by the second I feel. What did your DH say ?

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Submitted by Rumplestiltskin on Sun, 07/18/2021 - 1:15pm

Seriously, why is he even there if your DH is working too much to deal with him and all he's doing is getting in trouble? Can he join the military early? All our grandpas lied about their ages to get in lol. That was sort of a joke but i really don't see the point of him being there. 

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Submitted by notsurehowtodeal on Sun, 07/18/2021 - 2:46pm

Your SS is not too bright, is he? Or did he want to get caught? The smart thing to do would have been to use the Kindle and then put it back, instead of actually taking it.

 

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Submitted by SteppedOut on Sun, 07/18/2021 - 2:52pm

He just dgaf because he thinks nothing will happen to him. He gets no punishment and 8, 36, 84 chances. 

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Submitted by superlado on Sun, 07/18/2021 - 2:50pm

Dad should be dishing out the consequences.  Why are you ? 
 

do you have a lock and key on your bedroom ? That's what I do. 

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Submitted by justmakingthebest on Sun, 07/18/2021 - 8:02pm

DH laid into him once he got up. Ss kept denying that he took it, said he didn't know how it got there.

DH called all the other kids in asked them if they did it, if course they said no.

DH said, well there we have it. I guess your phone and watch stay mine until you leave. You can't be trusted or take responsibility and accept your punishment and that won't fly here.

I have password protected my kindle- I feel dumb for not doing it before, I just didn't even think about it! 

I didn't say a word. I am refusing to participate any further. All I care about is that my kids have fun the next 2 weeks before they go back to their dads for the rest of the summer!

If SS comes back next summer, I will not schedule my kids and SS being there at the same time.

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Submitted by thinkthrice on Sun, 07/18/2021 - 9:49pm

You should leave for a nice vacation solo.  Let H deal with HCGUBM's flying monkey.

And I wouldn't trust him any where near your bios.

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Submitted by Kamore on Sun, 07/18/2021 - 11:33pm

I've been reading your blogs and your situation really sucks. I'm sorry you're going through all of that and hope that it's over sooner rather than later. 

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Submitted by The_Upgrade on Sun, 07/18/2021 - 11:52pm

Process of elimination. Your daughter was puzzled as heck as to why the kindle was there. Why on earth would your son stash it there? SS16 on the other hand....

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Submitted by barbKarin on Mon, 07/19/2021 - 9:07am

I dont get it though. Your husband isnt even around at home to spend time with his son.

You are punishing a teenager all summer by cutting off access to electronics because his abusive mother has damaged him.

And then your husband feels bad that his son wants little to do with him when he goes back to his mother's?

What I'm seeing here is a kid who is being forced into picking sides by his own parents.

I've lived through this. This father-son relationship will be hard to heal.

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Submitted by justmakingthebest on Mon, 07/19/2021 - 11:20am

What other choice do we have when dealing with him?

Last summer it was stealing alcohol and getting drunk in front of like 20 cops at a cook out

This summer it is sneaking out and getting picked up by cops and stealing my property because he was grounded for a whole whopping week. 

He isn't cut from all electronics- TV and Video games are are still available to him- just his phone. 

Just let him live his best life and ignore it all?

He is spending time with him. SS sleeps until 2-3 every day anyway. DH is waking up around 3-330, so they hang out and we do things as a family until he goes into work at 10. They actually have more together time now than they did when he worked days because DH had to go to bed at a decent hour to be up at 4 am.

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Submitted by justmakingthebest on Mon, 07/19/2021 - 11:23am

My dad just called and I vented to him.

I think he and my mom are going to take my kids away to the beach this weekend. My parents spoil them like nobody's business and my mom is so happy to get out now that she is done with Chemo and radiation. This might be the best solution for my kids to get to have a trip and have fun with their Grandparents! They are super close to my parents and love hanging out with them, even as teenagers!