You have had a positive coparenting relationship in the past. Your ex agreed to stick to the current CS agreement which is what you originally wanted. Do you think it is wise to nickel and dime him going forward? Do you think it is in the best interest of your positive coparenting relationship? You've said it before that your kids expenses haven't decreased (which is why you fought the reduction in the first place) but have they truly increased? What are your motives for wanting to nickel and dime your ex? Is there truly a need for more money or do you just want it because you are entitled to it? The issue has been resolved and you won. 

Remember, attorneys make a living off of conflict so getting you fired up is their goal, to poke holes in your current arrangement with the hopes that you'll end up in court with you paying their retainer... Don't fall for it. The status quo has worked for you in the past up to this point. 

If you start down this road, your ex may feel that you are doing it as payback because he questioned CS and it might make him less agreeable to flexibility in the future. If you appreciate your flexibility and willingness to work together and you don't want to be forced to stick to the CO, I wouldn't push your luck. It is much harder to repair a broken coparenting relationship. Larger medical bills I can understand seeking reimbursement for, but tiny ones... It seems HCBM to request reimbursement for even a $1 prescription so to speak. You wouldn't like it if your HCBM did it, especially given your toxic relationship with her, so don't do it to your ex, whom you have a positive relationship with. It will turn a good thing ugly. 

I think you should let it go and stick with the current child support order that is already in place so upload or send him the reciepts for his portion of medical/etc. He knows that you know you would (should) be getting more monthly and it doesn't take a rocket scientist to calculate that half or whatever of some medical costs would be a lot less than a permanent monthy increase. 

I'm not so sure I'd be so generous as to just let it go. He's already underpaying support by $400/month, so you're already eating $4800 every year.

How much do you spend on medical? Maybe you don't want to send him receipts for the small stuff, but if a medical bill is over X amount, then you will. And I'd tell him that. Your attorney reminded you that he should be picking up medical expenses, but you still don't want to mess around with the small dollars but going forward you'll expect his support for the larger bills. And you define "large." And offer 50/50 instead of 70/30 if you want to throw him something so that it's evident you're still being cooperative.

I wouldn't nickel and dime him, but I think it's fair to tell him that you haven't been requesting medical reimbursement but plan to do so in the future, since he is underpaying CS. 

I would not nickel and dime him.  I wouldn't ask for 70% of a $34 bill, but I'd keep track of it all.  Then, I would not hesitate to request 70% of something significant (what that is depends on your finances,  but I'd think $100 would be for most people), and if I got a peep of protest I'd show him the total that I did NOT ask him for and start requesting 70% of everything going forward. 

I'm pretty sure he's trying to take advantage of your desire for an amicable co-parenting relationship, but he's not stupid and he knows now that you won't bend to his will on everything in order to maintain that cooperation. God for you for holding firm for the benefit of your kids. 

Save all of the medical receipts and records. When the total gets to be too much for you to bite, send them to him with a copy of CO.  In my mind you are being to nice.  What's the advice give around here? Follow the CO. 
 

Being "nice" or as the FLDS say, "Keep Sweet" is no way to have a co-parenting relationship.  If you and your children have to sacrifice financially to have a "good relationship" with their father then it's a win/lose. Win for him, lose for you and your joint kids. He made these kids, it's not fair for him to get off the hook just because he decided to go forth and continue to spread his seed. Maybe he should have considered if he could afford more children before he created a second family.  He should be contributing to their medical expenses as well as their daily needs. 

It's not a "good" relationship if you and your kids have to sacrifice for him and his new family.  Sorry, no. He needs to pay up. Quit being "nice." It's not nice if your kids suffer.  

He made his bed...well, he bedded and made children with multiple women. What does he expect? Did he forget how expensive kids are?  Does he think he gets a pass for his first set of kids?  If so he's an a**.  

***All IMHO of course. I've been there, nice just means that you sacrifice for him.  Haven't you done enough?

***FLDS; "Keep Sweet," is a term that polygamous wives use as to not rock the boat. Step relations are pretty close to polygamous and plural wife situations with multiple women and children competing for resources and attention from one man. 

I guess I'm the odd one out. I'd be asking for a review. The way I see it. He opened the door & pushed the issue. He knows you are due $4800.00 more which is why he is backing off. That's a lot of money to give up that is due your kids. $5000.00 a year will certainly help with college if you don't need the money. 

I am, at a minimum, rough around the edges so take my opinion with a grain of salt.

Basically, the way I see it, you stick to the order.  Even if you want to throat punch him for behaving like a clown recently.

As for the CS:  The attorney confirmed what you already knew, that your position was legally supported.  Correct me if I'm wrong but I don't think anything has changed as far as the circumstances factoring into said position. 

If that's the case I think your best bet is to find an outlet for your frustration on the topic and simply enforce what IS ordered.

On the rest of it?  Same thing.  Enforce what IS ordered.  Zero reason to not hold him accountable for his share when it comes to what IS ordered.

If you're not comfortable with that, first I would recommend you sit down to really determine why not.  Second, if you still feel the need to enable him, give yourself some guard rails.

Here in MI there's a certain threshold of cost to be borne by the CS recipient before extraordinary medical expenses are then shared (according to the income split) so if there isn't a similar boundary in your order perhaps creating an internal one would be best for you.

At that point you're not asking for $0.70 on $1, you're asking for 70% of the cost after you've covered the initial $X each year. 

Set some ground rules for yourself ahead of time so that you don't have to rely on emotion to make a decision when the time comes.

Just keep in mind:  It is not retaliation, or negotiating in bad faith, to start following the order.  It is not punishment to enforce the order.

He has shown you, intentionally or not, (certainly at least by way of his wife) that your flexibility breeds entitlement rather than appreciation.

If requiring him to fully participate in the court ordered minimum is enough to fracture your co-parenting relationship there wasn't really one to begin with.

I dont think you need to nickel and dime him.  He had no problem taking advantage if your kindness and generosity.  I'd stick to the CO and split the med expenses per the CO - that's why you have it.  

I'm amazed by such a dumb dumb move on his part.  

My ex never paid his portion of medical bills, or braces, dental work as he was supposed to.  His CS was a miserly $500 a month for two kids- never took him for a re-eval -which I should have.  He also took 1/8th of his visitation time so those were extra expense for me as well.  He's left for S. America now for the last year to where his family is.  Hasn't only talked to them a couple times since and because I insist the boys call him.  

I never thought he'd agree to it-but he did.  My 21yr old son has some mental health/substance abuse issues and he needs to get away from here, yesterday his dad agreed to have him come down- IF I send him $300 to help w/his expenses LMAO.   The man is a damn joke.  But at this point I'm almost willing to do it to get him out of here. 

I say in your case, tell him moving forward you will be searching his portion of medical bills, does he prefer them as they come in, or once every 3-6 months or end of the year?  

Child Support is for the Children.  Honestly, by agreeing to less than he might have to spend.. there is some amount "less" that his kids are getting.  Unless you are able to fully fund their college educations.. have funds to buy them cars at 16 and cover all those bills.. in some way.. they are suffering by you not accepting the full amount due to them.

Even if you were to just put that extra into a college fund for their future.. or a savings account for a future need for them.

It seems wrong to financially be frugal when in reality.. your EX is causing you and your DH to subsidize his obligations to his children.

I would re-visit the out of pocket medical and/or dental expenses that tri care will not cover. Add  30day pay the bill suspense.