So SS 15 is depressed and more than likely overwhelmed...BM has cancer again (see previous blogs)GBM is quite ill, he is failing school (as usual) and his GF broke up with him. He went into the counselor and told them that he is depressed and sometimes feels like shooting himself...so off he goes to a 5 day stay in the psych ward. He gets out on a Monday and that Friday he posts a pix to social media of him and his buddies with some guns. I think they were the airsoft ones but still. BM is really on the ball over there...

But this is not why I'm writing. So during all the drama of the Psych episode my DH and I get into it again about the way our marriage has suffered b/c of how we handled (or haven't) the situation with his kids and his poor relationship with them, me feeling like I dont even want to be in my own home when SD14 visits (SS15 doesn't come any more)and I said that's it. YOU need to find us a counselor. So next week we have out first session.

But as I have been looking online trying to find a good way to articulate all the issues we have I realized that there are ZERO resources touching on our situation.
Me: no kids, first marriage, from a close, fun, rambunctious family
him: this is his 3rd marriage, 2 kids from his first with whom he has a very distant relationship, some guilty daddy syndrome going on and kids are definitely PAS'd but not to the point where BM withholds their visits. She is more of an underminer and belittles what he says to kids. SS15 stopped coming a year ago and cut himself off from DH and his family until recently, SD14 still comes every other weekend.

Everything I read online makes it sound like the father's have a decent relationship with the kids and the SM is left out OR the kids are there a lot and it's a Disney dad thing....nothing touching on a DH who has every other weekend but yet the kids (or just one kid now SD14) really don't seem to "like" their father and basically act like he is an afterthought...that leaves him always jumping through hoops trying to get somewhere and definitely has left me out in the cold with everything...

Is there any SM out there who's skids come every other weekend and hardly talk you your DH, act like you are invisible, don't seem to enjoy anything you ever try to do with them, don't speak unless spoken to? MAKE YOU NOT WANT TO BE IN YOUR OWN HOME WHEN THEY ARE THERE???

3/4 of our short marriage has flat out sucked because of skids (directly or indirectly)

we needed therapy like yesterday!

Anyone? Bueller?