I waited until I got my kindle - it was the first book I ordered. I hid it also - lol. I wanted to get through it before suggesting DH read it or not. Anyway, the day I downloaded it, DH grabbed my kindle to 'check out the features' since his kindle is an older version and he wanted to see what kind of extras mine had - his face was like - What the heck it this?? He didn't comment, I just froze.

The title doesn't help matters. Anyway, he didn't comment, I didn't offer any explanation. I read the whole thing. I guess for me, I already validated how I feel - but it didn't give me any real suggestions on how to make it better. It just confirmed it is what it is and here I am now and I can expect this just to continue.

I am disengaged. I don't have any real feelings for my skids (I don't hate them, I just don't love them) and perhaps I never will. This is about as good as its going to get for me at this point.

Bookish, given the point we were already at & the extent of the damage that had already been done by the time we realized that there was even a name for alienation, & given the ages of the kids at that time, Adult Children of Parental Alienation was the most helpful for me of the 3.

SS is already an adult. SD is going on 16 & is still drowning under the influence. If she comes out of it, it won't be until she's reached adulthood as well.

I did really like Divorce Poison & the understanding it brought forth in helping us become familiar with PAS...the signs, the reasons, etc. But we were far enough in by the time we were able to put a name with it that the suggestions for fighting it just were not feasable for us. I do think that having the background & information from Divorce Poison, though, made the insight from Adult Children of Parental Alienation easier to process & understand.

Divorce Poison offered the basics on alienation & Adult Children of Parental Alienation provided thoughts & insight from the view of the child who experienced it, so we get to see every angle of the process & we get a better understanding of what these kids are experiencing & feeling in their minds as this is happening, & of course, they share the long-term effects PAS has created in their lives even years later.

DH is not one to sit down & read a book. As a "fixer", I NEEDED to understand what was happening. I can't fix it, but being able to put myself in their minds & get a better understanding of what THEY were facing & WHY they were behaving the way they were/are has made a world of difference in my being able to cope with what's happening. DH still hasn't read any of it, but I have read ACOPA & Divorce Poison several times each & continue to refer to them & share information with DH from them still.

I think ANY understanding of it is helpful to a targeted parent. Rejection hurts, & while it still hurts & it still sucks, it's helpful to read stories from the POV of the "child" because it lets us know that the rejection isn't something they do because we've done or said something to deserve the hate & rejection. It's taught & it's encouraged, & it's rewarded.

I bought my copy off of Ebay. It was cheaper than Amazon. I would ABSOLUTELY recommend it.

Just a couple of days ago I went back to Ebay & bought "A Family's Heartbreak: A Parent's Introduction to Parental Alienation" by Michael Jeffries & Joel Davies. I think it's more of a personal story about PAS than so much facts & statistics, etc, but it entails the entire journey for a father trying to keep a relationship with his child through alienation, court battles, etc. I'm hoping to have it in time for a weekend read.

The Inferno by Dante

Or if Dante is too advanced, perhaps "The Berenstain Bears & the Truth" by Stan & Jan Berenstain, or "God, I Need to Talk to You About Lying" by Dan Carr. LOL! Those have fun pictures!