So, very very long story, but the short of it is this: Last night we got into a terrible fight. We are separating but still living together. The children were here, all in their rooms, and I was preparing to leave so that things didn't escalate to a point where they would hear us. Unfortunately, he followed me downstairs to the door, and continued to argue with me. He was being very loud and I kept telling him quietly that the kids might hear and to please lower his voice.