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Reconsidering...

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So it's been a while since I've had anything to blog about. Naturally that stems from the simple fact that I hadn't seen my fiancé's son in over a week. Last weekend we were out of town. I've been thinking a lot about the potential issues he may have dealing with loss and having a mother figure on the home. I'm trying really hard to be sensitive to his needs while at the same time remaining focused on my needs within this relationship. Long story short I feel like I was on constant alert this weekend. He goes through great lengths to be by me and it drives me crazy.

Not my kid!

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Whew, I am still so glad I found this site. I have a few issues that have been floating around in my head and nobody to talk them out with. Since I've never dated anyone with kids much less been preparing for marriage it's all very complex and confusing. I'm threading on foreign territory here. Sometimes I'm surprised at my reaction to requests from my fiancee regarding his son. He just now sent em an e-mail asking if he could add me as an emergency contact person for his son and I'm irritated by his request.

smothering soon to be SS!

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My fiance's son is smothering me! He's 6 years old and his mother passed away shortly after his birth. I try to be sensitive to that and understand that he's excited about having me around but his demands for physical affection and closeness is exhausting. He constantly wants to sit by me, hold my hand and is forever trying to be physically close to me. I can't count the number of times I've turned around and tripped over him. I've also gotten compliments from him on my appearance which I find unsettling.