Last night, my DH (at my suggestion) has taken his son to dinner at their favorite restaurant. I stayed home. I thought it would be great for them to spend time together after his horrible day yesterday with SD14. Long story....read the previous blog. He gave her to her mother after deciding that no matter how bad her house is and the lack of rules he couldn't win in court. Apparently BM and teenagers have all the rights.

Well they are sitting at the sushi bar and in runs three teenage girls, giggling and laughing. One is his daughter, she sees him and they all run to the rest room laughing. They come running out 5 minutes later and run out of the restaurant laughing. SS11 looks at his Dad and says that must have been really hard on you. He tells him yeah.

We live in a small town, but there are still a lot of restaurants. His friends own this one. I can not believe this child would do that and not acknowledge her father. How completely disrespectful. You say hello.

She was grounded at our house for the lies and disrespect. She was taken to her mom's at 9:30 the night before and apparently on Facebook until Midnight that same night. Mom doesn't believe we need to punish. Dad does. He is somewhere in between her and I. Personally I am thinking this kid needs to go to a convent. She is with her mom less than 24 hours and she is running around all over town. She is 14 years old with no boundaries now.

She is on a fast track to trouble. I hate to say it, but I have read so many other blogs that I feel like I am watching her downfall. Everyone says she may be fine, but I don't think so. She is so flagrantly disrespectful.

My poor DH, we still haven't talked about it. But, I need to have this conversation to know what happened. The CO case is still open because, apparently even though we have conceded it has to play out. DH is worried about her possibly getting CS. We don't pay any now, because of the 50/50. She says she doesn't want it, but her lawyer may talk her into it. I started my own co this year and needless to say revenues are low. He is carrying us all until I can kick more in. We maintain everything separately. I pay for my house and he pays for his.

I did tell him after the incredulous conversation about the restaurant, that I was proud of him. How he has handled himself. That had it been reversed, I would probably have completely lost it on my husband. I know this sounds terrible, but it is nice that I am widowed sometimes. No ex to deal with.

I will say that it is peaceful in the house. The tension has left the building.