Well they met for dinner. First time together in 9 months. I stayed home, not my place to go. Not really happy with him, that she picked a Saturday night when we didn't have kids to do this. Yeah, great we won't get another one of those for three months, I am sure. I have no doubt that was intentional.

We have been a little disconnected lately so I never asked about the dinner. I did mention two days later that I noticed on FB that she is now a blonde and it looks terrible. She is a very dark brunette and it is obviously way too many highlights for her coloring. He said it looked awful and her mom gave her it for Christmas. I said did you say anything and he said no. Changed the subject and that was it. Next day we discussed the CO modification mediation for next week. I asked casually if she ever said anything to him about any of this at dinner. He said no. I asked nothing, not even all the problems with the bus. He said no. I am incredulous by this point and said 2.5 hours and nothing came up. He said he didn't want to. I said fine, but know this, that child is not coming back into this house, without some serious apologies to everyone including my son. He never said a word and we moved on.

I do not want that child back into this house. No way in hell. I may be wrong, but she has cost us a fortune. I have watched my husband turn into a broken man. My SS have emotional issues and internal conflict. My BS pushed and pushed by this kid. Not to mention, the lying she has done to anyone that will listen about me being evil.

I made my point about this. I am not going to waiver on her coming back into this house, unless some serious ass kissing by her takes place. I think she only did this because DH pushed it with BM. And because we go before the mediator next week and they know it doesn't look good. Once the papers are signed and BM gets her CS (ugh!!), SD will go back under a rock. She will continue to make us out to be bad guys to anyone who will listen, but she will not attempt to undo any of the damage she has caused. I may be wrong, but I really doubt it. After reading all of the blogs here on SD's and their feeling of entitlements, I am not holding my breath.