Example:
DH: Where should we go to dinner tonight?
You: How about ABC....
Child: I want XYZ and we need to go there now DADDDY!
DH: Okay we will go to XYZ let's go
You: Um I don't think we should eat at XYZ because it's very expensive and child only wants to go there for the desert and won't eat.
Kid: DADDY XYZ NOW!!
DH: But they want XYZ!
You: Well then you can both go to XYZ I will stay home.
DH: You always do this, whatever the KID wants you don't so we all get punished!

This shows that DH is on a adult relationship level with the child, and views you as the child who is spoiling the plans between him and his adult companion.

Husband that puts more thought into mini wife’s birthday presents etc than yours, and spends way more money on them than yours (without even even consulting you). Expensive dresses and jewellery way into her twenties, cos she is entitled to and ‘won’t speak to daddy if he doesn’t do what she wants, get what she wants. In the meantime actual wife is left with scraps. This shows when there is a limited amount of money in the pot so to speak he is way more frightened of saying no to his mini wife than actual wife. Mini wife takes advantage of guilty dad. Etc etc.

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My SD15 is a miniwife, but not in an affectionate way.  She's a cold miniwife in the same sense that her pyschopath BM was a wife.  Controlling, naricissistic, dramatic, she makes everything about her.  She believes she transcends the adults in the household, and wants to run everything her way.  Despite being a viper, she acts cutesy and helpless, and never gets enough attention.  She's a calculated, scheming backstabber.

SO claims the only reason he hasn’t purchased your engagement ring yet is because he wants to pay for it in cash with his upcoming bonus. Then turns around runs up well over $1000 in credit for his princess’ 12th bday gifts. Yeah, fuck you too bro. Sorry for the language but that one still burns. 

Best example I can think of from our home...

I've left briefly a couple of times over the 6 years we've been together because of the toxicity around SKIDS.  Each time, SDs would suddenly start cleaning the house and cooking for MR. ED while I was gone and he would brag about them doing so.  As soon as I returned to the scene to reconcile, they disappeared and refused to do any housework or chores.  I once asked YSD16 why she does that, and she said because she wants to help MR. ED.  I tried to reason with her that if that is the case she should continue even when I am here.  I asked if that means she DOES NOT want to help me in any way or just be a responsible person that takes pride in her home.  Her response..***SILENCE*** 

With a mini wife, I think ANY women would threaten their perceived status.  SDs behaved this way with MR. ED's previous GF, so its not personal...its a mini wife!

When I asked SO to take me out dancing, he told me he just physically cannot anymore, that his dancing days are over.
But a few weeks later, SO & MW get all dressed up in matching outfits and stay late at the Daddy/Daughter dance (which he's taken her to for years and they won't miss one).

On our very 1st anniversary, my SO told me days before to get dressed up because he was going to take me out to eat at a fancy restaraunt. Then he called me last minute, to let me know that he was going to have to cancel as he spent all- yes all, of his money on MW the day before.

They have a favorite restaraunt that they frequent so much (always dressed up in matching outfits) that the waiters refer to MW as his 'other half' (I cannot stand this place & refuse to go there anymore).

My SO is an author. Not famous or anything, but he has written several books. He wrote 4 dedicated soley to MW and her first years. He wrote another fantasy adventure series & the world is named after her. He wrote another set of books in which the main character is named after her. My name appears as a character in that series as well. At one point in that fantasy book, the character that is named after her becomes a goddess and all the other characters (including the one that bears my namesake) 'bow down before her'.

It's like an obsession. He adores her above all others- he says she is his miracle, bc he was told he couldn't have kids. He says he was at a point of giving up in life & she came along and saved his life. 

She acts like she is his biggest fan. She doesn't hound him about leaving dirty clothes on the floor or other household chores. It's hard to compete for his attention when he sees her as the one that wouldn't change a thing about him, and I'm the one that is always complaining about him.

When a MW behavior Or a Guilty dad behavior pops up, I'm quick to address them both. For MW behaviors, there's always a hundred excuses from him why things should be different in her case (often stating something like - she doesn't get any attention at her mom's bc there's other kids there).

Hope those examples help. MW behavior is the worst bc you're constantly told that you are just jealous...of a child.

I own my jealousy- I say, damn right I'm jealous! I'm your woman. Shame on you for putting me in a sitution with your unhealthy boundaries and where I am left to feel jealous of a child!

I honestly cannot understand how some of you live with your digusting husbands.

Example from my house while discussing Christmas gifts:

Me: How about tickets to an event for Auntie? 

DH: No, I don’t like to give people tickets as gifts because blah blah blah.

SD a few days later: Dad, I have the perfect gift for you to give to Auntie. Tickets!

DH: That’s a great idea! I wouldn’t have thought of that.

DH to me later: Merry, SD had the BEST idea for a gift for Auntie. Tickets!

Examples:

-DH snuggling SD on the couch or bed instead of me. 

-SD getting full reign of the tv from 6pm to 9pm and weekends

-SD getting to eat dinner in front of the TV vs my desire to eat without the tv at the table

-SD asking for her dad every 30 seconds when he's not in view. 

When a MW matures into adult relationships they are often confused and find themselves depressed to discover their boyfriend or spouse wishes for them to equals- because this is an absolute demosion from the superior role that she's always been accustomed to. 

It's unhealthy and the MW will ultimately reap the consequences of it in her adult years. 

I do care for the child, thus will not allow this abuse to continue in my home. 

I don't know how others see it. 

A parent's role is to guide, teach, and when needed, discipline the child, in an age-appropriate way.  Married/commmitted couples do not punish one another.  If there is concern about a behavior they discuss it adult to adult.  

Married/committed couples share intimate (not necessarily sexual) thoughts with one another, not with their children, though of course they should be sounding boards for their kids' concerns.

And you follow them and are expected to ask their permission. 

In my case sd23 & 14 actually told me in front kf daddy that they would do whatever to my toddlers when i said no don’t do this. I firmly told hubby on what planet do i get told by his 2 daughters that what they naughtily want to do to my toddlers supercedes my authority as their mum? Since when do i get tood to seek their permission or need to run things by them? Yup never and until hubby addresses thid with his daughters i will never be present

hubby justified this as daughters being friendly. Are you effin kidding me??