I am the mother to a 20 year old girl, 17 year old boy and a 12 year old girl. I am stepmom to 5 and 7 year old boys. I have been with my now husband for 4 years, married for one. Two weeks before the wedding bio mom calls and tells my husband that he has to take custody of the 5 year old (then 4 y.o) because she cant handle him. I ALMOST put the wedding on hold and should have. this child is constantly up his fathers butt! Demanding, whiney, rude, and highly defiant. As an example, last night we all went to play tennis.