Good-natured ribbing has been happening.

DH asked last night about ordering on Amazon. (He's never, ever done it. Leaves all technical stuff to me. Completely. Won't even try to figure it out, acts helpless.) I asked why. He mentioned that my bday and YSSs bday were coming up and he needed to get stuff. In what I thought was a kind voice and in an encouraging manner, I said maybe this year he could do other things instead of gifts. For example, if we are talking about love languages (he likes to throw this at me during fights that I don't do his language), mine is acts of service so if he cleaned up some of the stuff around the property that would be a great present. It's all his messes and all stuff he needs to organize. Then I also suggested that since the kids don't really need anything and he'd like to see them, that maybe he take the bday boy fishing (meet there, stay apart an appropriate amount).

Couple of things: it's not YSSs bday, it's OSSs. I wonder if he realizes that. Also, I've asked him to clean up in the past but I haven't said anything for a while, so I'm not "rubbing it in." And, the ah-ha moment: he's been trying to get a hold of OSS to talk, even has a decent reason to need a phone conversation, but OSS is not returning texts or calls.

DH was pissy at me all evening but it's because of OSSs lack of contact. Me saying I needed some alone time as a joke didn't go over well, either.

(Now that DS is at XHs, he's also very sparse with his contacts, too. Not a surprise. But I'm not taking out disappointment on DH.)

I'm going to refer to his attitude as "cor-ornery" (coronavirus, ornery, and coronary).