Another poster made me feel selfish. However after 'lurking' for awhile I've seen a lot of unfairness the "second family" is expected to tolerate. I just want to equalize the playing field and set some expectations early on. The majority of the the things I want to classify as separate items are my various retirement/saving accounts. Seeing as how he has more obligations (CS) than I do and we are in the same career field it's likely I'll retain more of my wealth. God forbid our marriage should end I dont think it fair that I subsidize his future w/ my assets and possibly alimony...