i have two adult sk who are married.  one has 2 children, the other is expecting their first.  i've only been married to my husband for 18 months so i missed the hoopla of the first one's wedding and baby showers.  but the second child i was invited to wedding shower and the wedding.  sk #2 is expecting in august.  we took them to dinner and gave them cash (because that's what they want from their Dad) and when dad asked if they are having a baby shower they said yes, the invites just went out (they knew i wasn't invited but didn't have the balls to say it to my face)   sk #1 offered me her