Oh no she didn't tell SD that..........
So we had SD for thanksgiving this year and it was absolutely wonderful. Before SD came we had a call into our lawyer to tell BM's lawyer we expected all medications that are prescribed to SD to show up (last visit they didn't).
Well all the meds came, she even sent clothing that fit this time. .... (we just let SD wear what we had purchased for her though.) BM didn't call and upset SD this weekend.
She tells her dad that she had asked her mother for some tennis shoes with wheels on them - and her mother said to ask your dad and imgra since they have all the money. SD said she then asked her mom doesn't dad help her take care of SD.
BM's reply was no he doesn't, and when he did it wasn't enough.
She told this lie to a 6 year old. Both of our mouths dropped. We then just explained to SD that DH does help take care of her, loves her, and does the absolute best he can, here in Va and in NC. Geez i guess 800 a month on top of her salary as a teacher with a master is just nothing.
When DH says he confronted BM about bringing SD into adult business and lying about the money... She told him SD just made that up what she told us and BM claims to have never said it.
I would love to receive 800 a month for my daughter. Hell i can not get the 278 a month i am supposed to get. Geez!
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so amazing how the BMs get
so amazing how the BMs get it all and then still wants to talk smack. we deal with that sometimes but ya know what? when the skids get older they will see who was who and what was what. it makes you feel like your going crazy sometimes but all in all..us step moms are amazing for what we do and put up with. you keep being/doing your best!
Ima, that is ashame that she
Ima, that is ashame that she told her daughter that...just know that all of this nonsense will come back to bite BM in the ass, when your sd gets older, because your SD will start to ask you guys about the lies and when you provide proof of what her mom is telling her is a lie it will bite BM in the face...dont let it stress you out girl, stay positive and dont let the tricks of the BM ruin your relationship with your husband...As you know, just continue to love your DH even more, which is the real reason the BM is mad.....you know how i am, i stick it to BM by loving my DH because sometimes BM needs to be reminded whose husbands our men really are, OURS.....the more you smile and support your DH and love your SD the more pissed she will be.......So tonight put it on your DH, BM gets mad at any positive thing that goes on in our lives....
I think it's great you
I think it's great you addressed that right then with SD and then confronted BM. As if a six year old could make that up! That woman is a jealous bitter piece of work and that will show up in her life. I had an ex who trashed me to my daughter (GA knew but still recommended joint, week on week off go figure) but eventually my DD figured out who was the good guy.
Yeah, DH has kept everything
Yeah, DH has kept everything in reference to paying child support and BM's actions and court transcipts and receipts. He has everything that he has paid before the court order (her rent receipts, daycare, clothing and the bank recepts when he deposited money in her account.) Nasty letters, emails and everything.
So after all those things have been said and done... if SD happens to ask or is PAS'd because of lies, then she will have the opportunity to know the truth.
DH explained this to BM on Sunday - that if she keeps down that path- it will not benefit her - and she should just let the jealousy go and quit with the bullcrap. It is so un-necessary.
We just continue to let SD know DH and I love her very much and keep it clean when it comes to speaking of her mother. SD should not have to deal with negativity in both homes.
********She doesn't have to love me or even like me - it doesn't change a dang thing..... So get over it and move on BM!************
Good for you girl, its a
Good for you girl, its a shame you have to keep records of everything...but hey you got to do what you have to do