I am new to posting on this website. I have been lurking around for a couple weeks now. Finally, decided to join you all. I fit right in with the crazy BM drama. It is just outrageous.

Well, a little about my situation. I had been dating H for about 3 years, and have been involved with his daughter for over 2. She (SD5) has been coming to my home - involved in activities with me and my daughter (BD13) for a couple years now. But we never met the BM.

Fast forward we decided to get married this year. So i sold my house, he bought one and moved in. In June, we all (Husband, Myself, BD13) went to SD5 dance recital and pre-school graduation. I went so that she could meet us and know who was living in the home from July on out when her daughter came to visit. We took her to dinner and attended the graduation. Needless to say - she did not act as a mature adult - even her friends had to tell her "Not to Hate."

It has been hell since that time.

First, my husband purchased his home in March - she took him for more child support - which was denied.

Second, the next weekend after meeting her - she claimed i was abusing her daughter and being mean to her.

Third - He went to court so that they could meet at an point for pick up and drop offs now that he get her much later in the day 630pm and requested 6 weeks visitation time in the summer. Well the judge and everyone else agreed. BUT now the BM has decided she no longer agrees and it really out for blood.

Fourth - Since he got what he wanted in court - She has now taken the child to a psychologist and is saying she (sd5) is having nightmares before and after her visits here. Needless to say - she also told this 5 year old child that she doesn't like me because of my face. She aslo told her - i am mean to her and is trying to get her to say those things to the counselor. Ask me how i know. The little girl asked why would her mommi tell her things like that and they are not true......... hum - same question i ask.

Fifth - Now she is signing her up for activities that interfere with DH visitation and gets mad when he still wants to exercise his visits.

Sixth - She no longer drives to the pickup points - why i am not sure.

So, as you can tell in 4 months of marriage i am at my wits end. I have told DH he needs to handle all of this in court. She has done so much stuff in contempt of the court order - joint custody - from banning him from the daycare, taking out a false protective order that the judge dropped, lying about prescriptions, lying about needs for the child, no insurance card, no medications coming. Just blatant craziness. 5 straight years of craziness. She now wants him to keep daughter to himself for visits. Me, my daughter, his mother and sister, can not be around at any time. He can not put her in daycare, he can not have anyone around at any time - unless she authorizes it.

So, i have decided to still love my sd like my own. I will not let her mom mess up the loving enviornment we have created with both of our kids (his and mine). I told him it is not okay for her (Bitchmom -BM) to attack family so he needs to handle it in court.

I am so anxious to see how she likes it at that time - when she has to face the music for her actions - in a couple months.

Anways I know this email is long - but it felt soooooo good to get it off of my chest - without getting upset and actually having someone to listen to me that is biased.