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SO In Contempt Of Court - Charge Dropped!! **Update**

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Submitted by iloveit on Tue, 04/05/2011 - 12:10pm

I know some of you know the back story on this but...my SO is legally separated from BM, has been trying to divorce her for 2 years etc she's dragged the whole thing out. Anyway, in the agreement for legal separation, my SO was expected to pay the mortgage on the house where BM lives (it's in his name) plus a good amount in temporary alimony. BM was to pay all utility bills and her own bills whatever she has. My SO made the mistake of continuing to pay the bills because she never changed them over to her name.

SD23 Pissed at My SO For Making Birthday Plans With Me and Not Her

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Submitted by iloveit on Mon, 04/04/2011 - 11:36am

My SO's birthday was on Sunday and we have had plans for MONTHS. I was doing something special for him so I was looking forward to it. Well last weekend, he spoke with SD23 and she told my SO that she misses her daddy and doesn't see him hardly at all anymore and that she wanted to spend time with him. So my SO said, we can spend time together what did you have in mind? She said she was going into the city on Sunday with her friend and wanted him to come. A reminder that SD23 lost her license for 90 days so now her friends have to drag her ass around until she gets it back.

I Told SO I Am Not Interested In Meeting His Adult Kids Right Now

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Submitted by iloveit on Mon, 03/21/2011 - 11:41am

So this weekend my SO mentioned something about wishing SD's would just meet me and get it over with but I was silent. I told him that I needed to be honest with him about that. I said if SD's wanted to meet me in the near future...I am no longer open to it. I told him that I had given this a lot of thought and after almsot 2 years of their non-acknowledgement and immature/disrespectful behavior I wasn't sure it was best for ME anymore. He was quiet and then he said well that just keeps me in the middle of both of these worlds.

Why do SK's blame us?? Honest opinions needed!!!

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Submitted by iloveit on Wed, 03/16/2011 - 1:02pm

I just posted a comment on someone else's either forum or blog about this. I want to know what you all think of this:

A lot of us here are in relationships with men who were married for years and then divorced LONG before we were ever in the picture. I know the situations vary but the idea is that the marriage was over and we had nothing to do with the divorce. I want to know WHY you think skids blame us for the breakdown of their parents' marriage when it was over before we were around? Any psych majors want to take a stab at it?? I would love to hear your opinions!

UPDATE - BM thinks email is not "credible documentation" to hold up in court...WTF? She's an idiot!

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Submitted by iloveit on Fri, 03/11/2011 - 11:27am

So I was talking to my SO again yesterday about BM and the divorce etc. I was very calm and did my best not to snap at him about her like I had done before. I took HS' advice about just listening and I just sat there on the phone and let him say what he needed to. However, I could not help but give my opinion about this particular thing and actually it did not create friction between SO and I either.

SO Defends BM - UNACCEPTABLE! Vent and Rant!!

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Submitted by iloveit on Tue, 03/08/2011 - 1:25pm

Alright, so for the last year and a half I have been with my SO I have hated BM. Well maybe that's harsh...I did not hate her at first but it certainly grew into that the more I learned about her. Anyway, over the weekend me and SO were having a late lunch and were discussing BM and how he thinks he won't be paying her alimony for 11 years because he believes she will find someone to marry and that will be more important to her.

I stood up to bf about adult SD's last night...I feel much better!

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Submitted by iloveit on Fri, 12/31/2010 - 10:05am

So last night I had kind of a random conversation with my bf about his daughters. A little background: I have never met SD20 and SD23 and we have been together almost 1.5 years. Just for those of you who aren't aware of my situation. Anyway, my rule as of a few months ago is that I do not talk to him about SD's and what they are doing in their lives. This was decided by me mostly to protect myself from hearing what they say about me and so that I don't have a chance to judge them based on their shitty attitudes and immaturity.