Last week, I put my first blog out here and the advice and support I received was amazing. In brief, my SD20 came to live with myself and DH about 9 months ago.  She did not like living with BM and had the convenience that my home (my home before I married DH), was 5 minutes from SD20's boyfrends house. SD20 got rude and disrespectful to me last week and I said she was no longer welcome - she did not keep room clean, paid no rent, ate food without paying for any of it, did not keep her bathroom clean and did as she pleased.