What should SO tell BM on Saturday at pick-up
BM has changed her "work" schedule 3 times for the month of August and all 3 times she has lowered his time with SD.
At first it was a normal pick-up and drop-off schedule, then it went to dropping her off earlier, now the third revised schedule has us dropping SD off to daycare at noon when he usually keeps her till 6, then takes her to his moms and BM picks her up from there at 8.
In the court order it states that pickup and drop off times are at noon but in the recording from the meeting (see past blogs) she CLEARLY states that SO can just keep SD until he has to go to work and take her to his moms and she'll pick her up from there so she doesn't have to be in daycare when he is there to spend more time with her.
Should he tell BM that from now on he will just take her to his mom before he goes to work and if BM is not working than it is on her to come pick SD from our house at noon, or should he tell her that from now on he will just take her to daycare at noon on the switching days.
I told him that he should just keep her till 6 because what if the judge looks at like he is willingly giving up 6 hours with her? Even though the court order SAYS noon, we have her on recording saying that he should keep her rather than take her to daycare.
thoughts?
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No reason for her to be in
No reason for her to be in daycare when she could be with her dad. I agree with you, he should just keep her 'til 6.
^this
^this
It just says pu/do time is
It just says pu/do time is noon, it doesn't specify. But in the recording BM asks well what if I'm at work? And SO said well I can just take her to daycare but I would rather just keep her here during the day, and BM says yes you should just keep her so she doesn't have to be in daycare.
Technically, she can file
Technically, she can file contempt charges if the CO says noon. Are you guys going back to court? Do you have an attorney? He isn't really voluntarily giving up those hours. He needs to document correspondence with her saying "I am not sure why you're changing our verbal agreement regarding the exchange time. For the past __ months I've been allowed to keep SD until 6pm due to your work schedule. It is my understanding that your work schedule still requires care for SD until that time, and having me take SD to daycare at noon rather than stay with me, her parent, is not in her best interests".
She is threatening to take
She is threatening to take him back to court already to take away his parenting time that she just agreed to a month ago. That's why I was asking, it does sound like it could be contempt but the way it's worded plus the recording, I was thinking that it wouldn't be you know? Yes, he has a lawyer.