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IAmALady77's picture

Submitted by IAmALady77 on Sun, 04/15/2012 - 4:46pm

that will make it seem like SO is still openly trying to communicate with BM while also making her look like an asshole?

TODAYS joyous conversation:

BM: I need you to give SD a bath tonight unless that's too much responsibility for you then I can just do it tomorrow.

SO: She always gets a bath when I have her overnight, it is part of our bedtime routine.

BM: WHY?! your not supposed to do that!

????????

This woman........

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texstep's picture

Submitted by texstep on Sun, 04/15/2012 - 4:50pm

DO NOT RESPOND. DO NOT ENGAGE THE BEAST. DO NOT POKE IT.

Do not acknowledge ridiculous statements that are screaming "please give me a reason to say the phrase 'i'm her mother. i KNOW WHATS BEST"

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Submitted by RainbowsAndDaisies on Sun, 04/15/2012 - 5:00pm

^^THIS^^^ Heres your new mantra: Do not engage the crazy woman. Repeat.

save all texts. document everything.

smdh's picture

Submitted by smdh on Sun, 04/15/2012 - 4:54pm

SO: I am not sure why you think you aren't supposed to bathe our child every day, but every website regarding bedtime routines from infancy through elementary school explains the importance of the routine, including a soothing bath. This includes websites, such as the Mayo Clinic (see the link attached), which is a world renowned medical facility. Since it is working for us, I will continue to bathe SD as part of our routine. I do understand that different parents have different routines and, in no way am I trying to dictate what you do on your overnights. Just sharing the information.

http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/child-sleep/CC00020

Toodles,

SO

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Submitted by Poodle on Sun, 04/15/2012 - 5:15pm

(1) Whilst still having to appear engaged for the purposes of outside agencies: "That sounds important. Could you put it in writing please? Thanks, I have to rush now, sorry".
(2) Once no longer having to appear engaged, pick up handset, put it in drawer, walk away and carry on with other things. Occasionally check handset for disconnected tone and once disconnected, hang up. Repeat as often as necessary. Forces BM to pay for long call, leaves her at first guessing where you are then gradually realising you are not listening and will not listen, and finally stops her calling at all. Very effective and non-aggressive -- the politics of the empty chair.

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Submitted by RainbowsAndDaisies on Sun, 04/15/2012 - 5:19pm

I just want to add this : You do not need to do anything to make it obvious to a judge (thats who you are saving all these texts for) that bm is being uncooperative and a bitch. She has already made that clear herself. If you must communicate, do it only in writing so that you have a record. Treat it as if you are communicating with someone from work. Be civil, use proper english, be polite. Do not engage.

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Submitted by IAmALady77 on Sun, 04/15/2012 - 5:26pm

we will not engage the crazy woman, we will not engage the crazy woman, we will not engage the crazy woman, we will not engage the crazy woman, we will not engage the crazy woman Smile