Basically I started to disengage about 4 years ago and have been completely disengaged now for awhile. I did it for all the "right" reasons....DH and I are not on the same page in regards to parenting. He refused to follow through on consequences that we had mutually agreed on, he told me after I had already gotten pregnant that I would have to be the sole financial provider for any children that we had together..so in essence he is the one that created this divided household.