Sorry, I would post but it's in Spanish. As we have all said here, it seems that most of the time the major issues occur with the stepmoms, not stepdads...well, I will post and translate what this idiot says about how "she made it work" and the counselor AGREES!!!

"My husband began to love my children before we married. However, when we married, my MOTHER KEPT MY 3 CHILDREN with her for SIX months. This gave US the opportunity to be a COUPLE FIRST. But after the 6 mos, my husband told my mother that we could take them home because he felt ready for them to be in our home".

CAN YOU IMAGINE if a MAN did the same? The crazy BM and society would jump all over him for wanting to be a SPOUSE first. Which of course, is what MOST BMs do...it's just fathers that aren't allowed to do it.

Then she goes on to say:

Actually, before they married they reached an agreement and she gave him full permission to "DISCIPLINE HER KIDS & to be an important figure in the life of her kids." She never tried to tell the kids to call him dad, although the word stepdad was never mentioned in her house. In addition, she always told her kids they had a bio-dad. Today, the kids are grown and call stepdad DAD and bio-dad, by his name.

SOOOO...really? You allowed your new spouse to DISCIPLINE YOUR KIDS? I wonder if you would have allowed your ex's new spouse to do the same? Nope, I doubt it. Also, funny they call him dad...instead of their bio-dad...nobody seems upset by that. Really? I'm sure you told your kids they had a "POS bio-dad" just like my DHs mother did...

Anyway, I had to post. This is the outrageous double standard that most stepmoms face. Everyone on the article rated it a "thumbs up"...like she did such a wonderful freaking job! Amazing! sigh...

http://www.elnuevodia.com/lostuyoslosmiosylosnuestros-923999.html

"Él los empezó a querer desde antes de casarnos. Pero cuando nos casamos, mi madre se quedó con los niños por seis meses. Así que primero pudimos ser pareja. Pero luego él mismo fue y le dijo que se los llevaba porque estaba preparado para que estuvieran en la casa con nosotros", relata Rosa.

Precisamente, dice que antes llegaron a unos acuerdos y ella le dio la "apertura necesaria" para que él los disciplinara y fuera una figura importante en la vida de sus hijos. No obstante, destaca que él nunca trató de que los niños le dijeran papi "aunque en mi casa nunca se menciona la palabra padrastro". Además, afirma que a los niños siempre se les habló de que tenían un padre biológico. Hoy día, esos niños -que ya son adultos casados y con hijos- le dicen papá a Félix, mientras que al padre biológico lo llaman por su nombre.