O/T How do I get him out of my house? CON'T
He is gone. I came home from work to beer cans. Thankfully he left quietly and with no drama. He probably doesn't even remember anything. We had an agreement made while he was in rehab that if he started drinking he couldn't be in my house. The drunk dumbass left a beer can in the trashcan next to the bed! I found more after I started looking.
My house is peaceful again. I was able to contact his dad to come and pick him up. Drunk DH was planning on just being homeless. His dad's house isn't where he should be but it's better than the streets. I wish him luck.
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I'm sorry it came to this. I
I'm sorry it came to this. I hope he gets the help he really needs.
I have all the keys. Even
I have all the keys. Even the keys to his non-running vehicle. But yes, I suspect I will be doing some lock changing this weekend just in case. Then there's the ADT system. He'd be up shit creek if he tried anything. I am not the dullest tool in the shed.
Good!!! I am so relieved for
Good!!! I am so relieved for you!!
I'm so sorry it ended up like
I'm so sorry it ended up like this but at least he didn't cause too much trouble when he left... I agree with above poster - change the locks.
Thanks! It will be enjoyable
Thanks! It will be enjoyable to have some peace and quiet for the first time in a long time. I still love him but at this point he can live at his dad's. I would have to see a year of sobriety to even entertain the thought of letting him come back.
Would I have to do that if I
Would I have to do that if I own the home? His name is not legally linked to me in any way except the marriage certificate. The house is in my name only. He's not on banking accounts, not a beneficiary on anything. I'm referring to the eviction notice.
But legally he probably has
But legally he probably has tenants rights, if he wants to push it.
I would check on the eviction
I would check on the eviction notice, just in case. Dot your i's and cross your t's and all that.
I am very sorry that your DH couldn't get his shit together. But, YOU are doing GREAT!!! You should be very proud of yourself for handling this the way you are and NOT taking his drunk ass back. Kudos Harleygurl!
Harley, I told my DH last
Harley, I told my DH last night that if he doesn't stop drinking, that one day he is coming home to an empty house....I'm tired of dealing with it....
I don't have a problem with
I don't have a problem with social drinking like a drink at dinner with friends. I have a problem with a person that has let it take over their lives to the point they hide it because they know they are going to far - which is what DH did. He's not a stupid person. One of the most intelligent humans I know. And he knew what he was doing was wrong but his pride is bigger than his willpower.
Let's put it this way - I had gotten to the point that if I was going to do something with friends: dinner, listen to music, whatever, I no longer allowed him to come with me.
If you don't like the drinking then please have a plan. It's scary as HELL but I was so content last night. Didn't have to worry about some drunk asshole getting up and ruining my evening because they weren't in their right mind and had passed out earlier.
And the high-light is that I don't have to mother SS8. I had/have a lot of resentment for having to deal with his child because he was blasted. Taking care of SS8 wasn't so much the problem as that when I did, which is extremely different from what DH and Dipshit BM do, I would get crap - yelled at, nasty text messages, etc. But what those two fail to realize is that SS8 needs some discipline in his life. He needs rules and structure - consistency. I feel sorry for him.
I'm sorry Harley. I'm an
I'm sorry Harley. I'm an alcoholic- it got bad for like 4 years, but I stopped before I lost everything. God bless. He has to be in the right place to quit.
Thanks everyone for the
Thanks everyone for the suppport!!! I will keep you posted. It's going to be a step free/drunk ass environment for quite awhile! Yea to me!