And Again! But this time punishment is worse!
SS7 threw another royal fit in school yesterday over Reading and Recess! Yes, I said recess. He said it was too loud at recess and he didn't like his new reading group. I told him TOUGH LUCK! And this was after his teacher took the time to buy a sketch book for him to draw in between assignments. Drawing is SS7's outlet.
This time he even ran from the principal when she took him to the office. We cannot figure out why he is doing this. So today, which is his BIRTHDAY he has OUT OF SCHOOL suspension. Who gets out of school suspension on their birthday? Who get suspension when they are 8??? And this is a kid that has been through autism testing, ADHD testing, etc., so it isn't psychological or chemical.
DH didn't sleep a wink last night worrying. I didn't sleep much because he kept coming in and out of the bedroom. What kind of uncontrollable child is SS8 going to be when he gets older? Personally, I would do what I used to do with my boys - get a big guy with a deep voice (in my case it was my dad) and let them put the ultimate fear in them with a lecture. That or a really good crack on the ass. But he is not my child so no can do.
Anyone else experience this level of stubborness in their own children or their step-children and what did you do? We've tried everything that I have ever used with my boys and a handful of other things as well. If he keeps this up they are going to kick him out of school permanently.
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I have an 8 year old brother
I have an 8 year old brother (we have a large age gap) who throws the most almighty strops and is completely stubborn. However, he seems to be the opposite of your SS. He's not scared or respectful to my parents but the second you threaten telling teacher, he goes mad, freaks out and says no you can't do that, please no, I'm sorry.
8 does seem ridiculously young to be suspended, but then as you know, my SS has recently been suspended and he's 4! It's madness! I'm not sure what to suggest to help to be honest but I wanted you to know you're not alone. Is there consistency between discipline at yours and discipline at BM's? I think it can be extremely confusing for a child to have different boundaries at different places and naturally, they're going to try and push the boundaries as much as possible.
There have been many
There have been many discussions about "structure and discipline" in our home and BM's home. There has also been a lot of lying. Supposedly he has a routine and structure at BM's. Evidence and things he says give other impressions. We do have structure and routine at our house. It's was like that before SS8 came into the picture. My oldest BS21 has ADHD so we have always operating from a routine.
SS8 is excellent at manipulating and playing DH and BM against each other. Personally I think DH and BM need counseling and/or be forced to take parenting classes together. An impartial third party might be able to bring out the BS and find out the truth. And yes, my DH could step up his fathering game also.
He isn't completely ADHD. It
He isn't completely ADHD. It was determined that he has some tendencies but not enough to medicate. I agree with the doc on this one after what I have been through with my oldest son. I research a lot and have thought from the beginning that ODD is the best possible answer. He fits the criteria I've read but I'm not a doctor. Everything has been taken away from him. It doesn't phase him one bit although he did cry when I took his stuffed animals away the other night when he was suppose to be in bed and he was goofing around, lights on, party going on in his room.
He is stubborn. He wants things his way or else. BM's house is a constant circus with his siblings, which she has no control over, filthy, no money because his mom won't work. Every decision they make is about as stupid as can be in my opinion. Remodel for a man cave for the hubbie instead of creating another bedroom so SS8 doesn't have to share with a 4 yr old and a 2 yr old. That makes real sense. NOT! She will even go through his toys, not old toys but ones he plays with, and whisk them out from under him and say "We need money. We are having a yard sale."
The psychological damage that has been done to this child is outrageous! And I admit DH has contributed to it also. It's so sad!