I feel absolutely sick to my stomach right now. Idk where to even start. I'm just so aggravated, disgusted, confused and overwhelmed.

BM called FH this afternoon stating that her current on-again off-again boyfriends family has accused SS12 of "touching" his 3 yr old sister!! WTF?!?!? My first reaction was utter shock! WTF would lead them to make such serious accusations?? BM said that BF's family said that little girl was "touching" her little 3yr old cousin and somehow they are saying she learned that from her brother????? How DARE they say such a thing with NO reason to suspect it? NO ONE has EVER seen ANY questionable behaviour between ss and his little sister. EVER. SS has NEVER displayed ANY behaviour like this. He does have behaviour problems at home ie fighting with his older 14yr old sister, fighting with his BM, not coming home after school, sneaking out of the house. But NEVER something as disturbing as molesting his little sister. I feel so sick that they could accuse him.

But here's the worst part - She called FH to tell him about the accusations on Saturday but said she wasn't going to bring it up to SS. She didn't defend SS to her BFs family either! She was vague about any details DH asked about and when she wouldn't answer questions he reminded her that she said "I'm done and he needs to live with you" and FH WANTS to take SS full time she FLIPPED OUT. Again. She ranted about how FH is a shitty dad and he can't take her son. Then she said she had to go because she had another call!!!

I asked a million questions about this conversation because I feel like sooo much wasn't mentioned by BM. If I was a mother and someone accused ONE of my kids of touching MY OTHER kid...I would be full of so many emotions - protective? Defensive? Scared? sad? Enraged? I would be PISSED at BF's family, I would be scared for my kids, IDK what I'd feel but more emotions than I could handle at once. FH said all she did was breifly mention what BF's family said - no emotion, and then ranted and raved about FH being a shitty dad!

While I was on the phone with DH, BM texted him and said "you don't even care that our son needs counseling"...OMG. FH has been asking BM and SS to go to counseling (because of their relationship problems) and he's been asking BM to get SS into counseling for YEARS. The CO says that BM is supposed be responsible for SS med insurance and since she never works he is on medicaid. She keeps saying she can't seek counseling for SS because it isn't covered under medicaid and its NOT TRUE. I know for a fact that he can get mental health services through DCF safe families. BUT SHE WON'T GO THROUGH DCF!!! I know it's because she is afraid to bring attention to what is happening in her house!!!

Open enrollment is coming up so FH is going to get SS on his med insurance and get him couseling and we have started documenting what's happening with BM. But this is not something I saw coming. I KNOW down to my BONES that SS would never do anything like that. He is a good kid whole adores his sister. But for his mom to react so nonchalantly about it? Just to bring it up in conversation to play the "your a shit dad" game? I don't get it.

My stomach is in knots.