It sounds like she was trying to make trouble between you and your husband. Could it not have been personal against you, but perhaps she wanted him back? (Morally wrong of her regardless, but not personal against you per se.)

My first incling that she didn't like me was ...
..when she began calling my house to call me names & hang up in my ear.
My second clue was....
.. after BF & I bought our house she showed up at our door... threw court papers at her daughter..took the house keys from her...then used them to key my car as she walked past it ..back to her own..
The third incident was...
...waiting outside the courthouse for the restraining order hearing I wanted to keep her away from me & my home & my property and she caused another scene by pointing, very loudly, laughing, sneering, leaning, stretching to try to stare me down..quite a public display.
The most memorable was....
...screaming obscenities at me at the top of her lungs in a busy, crowded grocery store parking lot. Her boyfriend was totally humiliated by her crassness...they had a huge fight over it.

She is not a mentally stable woman....

When BF moved out he left behind all of his financial paperwork, bank stuff, old-investment stuff, documents regarding a large insurance payout...etc She first proposed that they stay together but see other people....(cake & eat it too)...of course he wanted no part of that. Then came the "I'll take you for everything!!" Threats. When it came time to face her in court she lied about any knowledge of his money,etc.. but prior to trial. I had him go to the bank and pull 6 yr old copies of checks, etc..and I spoke up in court..clarified to the judge..the financial situation and how to read these odd bank copy records..and showed him a copy of a check for $11,000 that she had written & signed on his money.. BF won his legal argument...she was furious!!! Absolutely hated me for exposing her to the court as the liar, nut-job she is...

The funny part about her behavior is that she had been meeting/sleeping with men (internet) for 4 yrs prior to BF finding out & leaving AND we eventually found out that her current BF & her had been seeing each other for at least a year before my BF left..

I don't get it!! Why all the hostility towards me! I'm told she's a very spiteful, jealous woman, always had to be one up on everyone. Her house had to be nicer, her car better.....

The SD's wedding should be fun next summer.....I just dread the thought of it!!!!

You can usually tell the bio doesn't like you by the extreme amount of frost in the air. It literally hangs, like icicles. Seriously, one of the toppers was when she told me husband, that he didn't have her "permission" to get married to me. Ex'es in all retrospect seem to cause miserable, awkward situations. Many of them seem to be masters at fabricating stories and then are absolutely livid when they are exposed in court. It always seems hard to find a nice guy who doesn't baggage.....so you end up putting up with it, because you simply can't live without that man.
Regards, Sweetie

Was "step-mom hit me" the correct answer Mom was fishing for? Does your evil step-mom beat you?!! (stereotype) Soemtimes kids will sense what Mom wants to hear. And children that age can be easily led depending how questions are presented to them. I don't know if she made it up or not...it's possible..but we'll never know for sure, but she can definately lead the child to make untrue statements at that age.

Oh, good Lord, the exact same thing happened to me almost a year ago. I'm sorry to hear of your experience because I felt sick when I went through it.

I nearly died when my now husband told me that his ex- said my my SS said, "SMIT hit me." He was only 3 years old as well. Fortunately, my husband knew better and admitted to me that he wondered why she said something like that. We still don't know if she was trying to cause a problem, or what.

I hope that your husband has as good a head on his shoulders as mine does and can see that you would NEVER hit that child. Hang in there!

You can't rent space in my head, I reserve the right to evict you.

When DH and I first got together, BM told him that SD (then 4) told her that I "threw her against the wall and punched her in the face". BM told her family members so they were trying to fight my DH. I had just met them a few weeks prior and was absolutely horrified. DH (then bf) didn't tell me at first because a) he didn't want to upset me and b) he didn't believe BM at all. She told him to leave me, I'm abusive, etc. The only thing she accomplished with her stupid allegations was that from then on, I absolutely refused to watch the skids without DH being around. No way I was going to puut myself in a situation to be falsely accused.

Other than that, I know BM doesn't like me because she says as much to the kids. So the skids (who I have a really good relationship with) would tell me about the things their mom said about me. In telling me these things, SD would often color the story with her own opinions, like "BM says that you're ugly and stupid and that she doesn't like you. But isn't that silly? How can you not like someone you don't even know?" Or "Mommy says you're so ugly, but I love coming over to see my beautiful stepmom." My SD7 is very astute.

if I would say she dislikes me, but I know she is very jealous of me and has tried numerous times to "test" FH to come back to her. She also looks at my mypace page about 3-4 times a day (I started putting stuff on their just to make her mad)..lol.