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So very tired of it all

grace8205's picture

So tired of skid24 and DH. 

Friday night I made homemade pizza, like I normally do on Friday’s but this Friday I offered to make skid and his GF pizza too which normally I do not do lately because skid is such an asshole. They stayed in for the night, ate pizza and went to watch TV on the big screen in the basement. 

When I was upstairs getting ready for bed in our master bathroom I noticed a funny smell as I passed by the floor vent. It smelled of vaped pot. I thought I could be wrong, but the other part of me said skid is that stupid. I went to the basement, skid and GF left just before. I could faintly smell it. 

I can’t believe the little asshole would do that in our house considering he was kicked out 3 years ago for having drugs in our house. Pot was legalized in Canada earlier this year but that does not change my view or DH’s view. We don’t want it in our house and certainly don’t wanted it consumed in our house. 

I told DH, he said “he wouldn’t be that stupid” and he went to the basement to check it out. He came back up and said I don’t smell it. He said he smelled it on them when they came in from outside earlier just as they sat down for pizza, but can’t smell anything in the basement. He said maybe you were smelling the essential oil vaporizer. I said as soon as I saw that in his room my first reaction was to suspect he might be smoking pot in our house, since he use to use incense to cover up the smell and he was no longer allow to burn it.

It bothered me as I went to bed that night. I was so sure. The next morning I decided maybe there is footage on my security camera in the basement, it maybe of picked something up but it was dark down there and it doesn’t always pick up all small movement. 

I did find one shot where is picked up skid giving his gf a hit off a small vape and you can see that she takes a big drag, comes off and blows it in the air and leans back on the couch. 

I know it was pot, the gf does not smoke or use the regular vape, she only smokes pot. Even if it wasn’t pot, the rule is not vaping or smoking in the house. 

I was pissed. But DH and I were meeting my family for lunch so I kept it to myself otherwise DH would not feel like going to lunch and pout for the whole day. 

A little while after returning home I told him we need to talk, just as I hit send on an email to him titled “they are that stupid” and a video clip of them in the basement. It took him a couple times of watching it to figure out what he was seeing, but he saw it. 

He was upset, could not believe that his son is so disrespectful and was going to talk to him. I was pissed off that he was only going to “talk to him” . I said keep him out of my way and I will not talk to him because anything that comes out of my mouth at this point isn’t going to be so nice and knowing your son it will cause a war. 

I could hear DH talk to skid and gf last night. He was nice about it and said he smelled it and asked that they not do that in our house. Of course they denied it. The whole conversation and how nice DH was being almost made me barf. Skid was saying you probably smelled my essential oil vaporizer. DH did not mention the video. Just left it at that. 

An  hour later skid texts a picture of a bottle of Eucalyptus oil, saying it was that. I told DH he should texted him back a copy of the video. But of course DH didn’t. 

This morning I get up and pick up my phone and it wouldn’t open. There was a massage on the home screen. Then I realized I picked up DH’s phone (we have the same phone and same case). I see skid texted at 2am all bitchy saying that he is owed an apology for being accused of something he didn’t do. Effing really! DH is still sleeping, but he better not apologize because that’s when I will no longer keep my mouth shut and the war of words with skid and I begins, which is one of DH’s worst fears. 

Skid is suppose to be out at the end of May however this situation will not carry on until then. 

 

Comments

oneoffour's picture

i would send SK a copy of the video with one word  .... BUSTED! I really would not care if it was DHs phone or my phone. The kid is asking for an apology? No sweetheart, not on youur life. If you want to smoke pot, do it elsewhere. Some people do not like others drinking alcohol in their home, some do not allow pre marital sex. Your house your rules. Gio for it. If DH has a fit, so waht? I am so over pussy men who are scared of their own shadows.

 

Harry's picture

Getting BUSTED, and saying sorry. It’s another thing to ask for a apology?  Is there something wrong mental with SS.  Or does he thinks if he denied it enoug it just did not happen ?  If it’s was me, I would be hiding until it blows over. 

grace8205's picture

I think something mentally is wrong with him, so does he dad. Not my problem. Skid is an adult in denial, I'm sure he doesn't think he has mental health issues so treatment will never happen. Either way being treated for mental issues does not cure being an asshole. 

Disneyfan's picture

Is there a way to play the video on the TV in the basement?  If so, I would do just that and let it play on a loop.

grace8205's picture

I should sent it to play in his room when gf and him are watching TV . Maybe even cast an episode of Dr Phil that has entitled adult children as the topic. 

shamds's picture

On a usb stick that has the video with the caption busted and a message that says “whats pathetic is when you smoke pot in a home where it’s strictly banned, then make up excuses, then demand an apology knowing you’re in the wrong 100%. So when you get off your high horse and would like to apologise, we’re all waiting.

i’m sure there are video apps that let you type a caption. I am this kind of person is skid tried to pull this crap on me

i’m at times very lucky with my husband because he was always a sole income earner and reports to the ceo of his company. So he relies on me to tell him stuff about skid like unacceptable behaviour because skids will take the credit and lie to hubby.

so if hubby asks ss to do something and he says it was done, i can confirm to hubby it hasn’t been done and hubby takes my word. We’ve only been married for 4.5 yrs and ss is gonna be 21 in 2 months. That says alot about skids behaviour because hubby knows they’ve been corrupted by bio mum and he’s failed to address many things and doesn’t like being lied to when ss is given the privilege of a bedroom and bathroom and free place to stay when he’s on uni breaks but that comes at a price

i really feel for those other spouses who can’t have this relationship with their spouse, that he doesn’t trust them and makes excuses and tries to justify it.

that was my husband and i had to show him bluntly in perspective how skids were disrespecting and mocking him when they lied and did all kinds of things and excuse after excuse for everything. It was so pathetic. How about you shut the hell up and listen when your parent is telling you off.

also op, i am yet to meet a male skid aged 24 who claims to have an oil burner or incense burner at home. Since he has a girlfriend and isn’t gay, its crap...  burning candles, incense and essential oils are for guys who are romantic, metrosexual or gay men who are into these romantic calming things and women. Feral, druggy, smoking pot skids don’t burn essential oils as a hobby or to relax. Also i have eucalyptus essential oil and you only smell it when you open the bottle or are sniffing the bottle right next to your nosr, you can’t smell it from a distance and if he isn’t sick and phlegmy, he wouldn’t need to burn eucalyptus unless he is smoking

grace8205's picture

Skid24 had an absolute melt down because he wasn’t getting his apology and decide to move out and leave. He was going to his mom’s house.

Funny thing is skid’s mom texted DH trying to repair things but also said skid can’t stay with her. I will update later.

shamds's picture

My 20 yr old ss threatened to run away from home to shut hubby up. After that resentment hit in and hubby wasn’t happy, he knew things were getting inspected

bio mum on the other hand is only interested in smoothing things over to have skid move out asap

hereiam's picture

Haha! Well, that's why she wants to try to repair things, because she doesn't want the little jerk staying with her.

It's time for him to fly.

Running to Mommy's isn't exactly, "moving out".