I have no longer been with my ex for 2 months now... its been rough let me tell ya... i had to call the cops on him 2 weeks ago for nearly choking me and pushing me and have taken him out of my daughters life for a while because of his um... whats the word, unstableness and lack of not being and acting like a psycho path!! but have told him about the other guy, my new bf, and thats what hasnt gone over to well... and i dont blame him, i mean what kind of person leaves a 4 year relationship and jumps into another...?? ill tell u who! me... but i wasnt looking for anything it was horrible yet perfect timing... hes the man of my dreams and is amazing to me and my daughter and i havent had my son around him much bc hes a little young yet and i dont want to cnfuse him but heres the thing... is what im doing wrong? i mean ive been grieving ove our relationship for over a year bc even tho we were "together" we werent really in my eyes and im about 99% sure my daughter noticed and now with this new guy u can see it in her that shes very happy... she is 5 1/2 btw...i just wanna do whats right and i want everyone to be happy... i love this guy already and he feels the same way i do... believe me i wasnt ready for another relationship and neither was he we just sorta found each other and sparks flew basically and i dont think if everything wouldnt have happened so fast like the feelings between us and all, that it wouldnt have worked... i know it sounds crazy but were really trying and not giving up, we want this to work... ive never felt feelings like this for anyone before and hes kid free which means no skids... im still gonna be there for the exs skids but now its by choice... not obligation... but the ex has been causing alot of probs ba mouthing me to my children and calling me names and fighting with me infront of them, and he said he didnt wanna be there for my daughter anymore like twice and now hes changing his mind but i dont know if i should let him bc i dont want him to hurt her anymore than he has already... he actually turned her against me for a couple days telling her how cold hearted and f*cked up i am and she wouldnt talk to me or even give me a hug... now she doesnt want to see him bc he didnt let her come out this weekend with her brother... i let my new bf stay the night friay and saturday... i dont know if that ws the right thing to do or not but my daughter wanted him to after telling him how snuggable he was... lol... he took us bowling and out to eat and ordered pizza the next night helped me out around the house an even watched her today while i worked and they had a blast... is it all to soon? i believe this is fate.. is there such a thing as luv at first sight... i mean that wasnt truely our case but it almost fits... pls comment i want to know if anyone else has experienced love at such an early stage where it wasnt phony... i think this is way real, i know it and i am finally happy