Basically shes agreed to overnights, FDH and I have discussed between ourselves what we think are suitable arrangements but havnt consulted Ms Control freak BM yet...
Thought i'd blog it, get some opinions.... Thanks x

BM,

Here is a proposed draft of new contact arrangements for SD8 and SS5 with myself.
I think I have covered everything which needs to be organised with regards to the children’s access to myself. Please take the weekend to think about what I have suggested; and return the forms to me, along with any thoughts or suggestions you wish to make, in writing, by 08/07/2012.
If there is anything which you feel you would like to add, or edit, please write it on a separate paper and I can read through it and amend the contract if I am in agreement.

If you feel that what I have proposed is adequate and reasonable, then please sign and date it and we can both keep a copy for our records so that there need be no more confusion, upset to the children or unnecessary discussions with regards to these issues in the future.
If neither of us feels that we can come to an agreement by: 07/08/2012 then it may be necessary to return to mediation to resolve any issues which require further discussion.

I look forward to collaborating with you on this and hope that we can come to a better understanding, and level of cooperation than what has gone before.

Kind regards and best wishes for the future

FDH

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Contact times / days.
• Weekends: 1st and 3rd weekend of each month: Friday 5pm – Sunday 12 noon.
2nd and 4th weekend of each month: Friday 5pm – Saturday 7:30pm.
 Times are subject to remain flexible, should they clash with vital work, or social commitments for the children (i.e. pre-arranged outings or social commitments with BM.)
 Changes to schedule must be arranged with no less than 48 hours’ notice from either party in writing (either text, written, or email)
 If FDH should be “on-call” he should inform BM 48 hours prior to this taking place. Should a “call-out” occur while the children are in his care, they may be either returned to BM, or left in the care of a responsible adult.

• Weekdays: Tuesday 5pm – 7:30pm as usual.
Swimming every 1st and 3rd Tuesday of the month.

• Summer Holidays: Times as above, excepting the 1st week in August, during which the children will spend a whole week with FDH. They will be collected on a Friday at 5pm and returned the following weekend on a Sunday at 12noon.

 Should BM have pre-arranged a holiday with the children during the summer holidays, which clashes with FDH’s contact with the children for one or more nights: No less than one weeks’ notice should be given in writing. No holidays / activities will be booked by BM during the 1st week in August.

• The children’s Birthdays: Separate celebrations. Parties / events organised by BM can be arranged for the Sunday on which she has care of the children all day.
• Christmas: Alternate years: Christmas Eve 12noon – Christmas day 12noon
Christmas day 12noon – Boxing day 12noon

• School plays / assemblies / events: Alternate years / events. Should one parent be unable to attend due to sickness / work commitments, then the other parent may step in to ensure that at least one parent is present for each event.

 Both parents will attend parent consultation evenings separately.

• School homework: May be completed at FDH’s home every 1st and 3rd weekend and every 2nd and 4th Tuesday of the month where applicable.

I agree to the above contact arrangements, and agree to adhere to them to the best of my ability.
I agree that this is on a 6 month trial basis, from the date of commencement above. Should the arrangements prove to be seriously un-satisfactory / detrimental to the welfare of the children, this contract may be amended, with written agreement between both parties, after the stated trial period.
I agree that this contract is subject to amendment with written agreement between both parties, should my circumstances dramatically change and I am no longer able to adhere to the points in said contract to the best of my ability.

Signed