It almost sounds more like she's trying to convince herself and she is looking for reassurance. Ghost, my sister is in the same situation. I think her and Ann need to get their heads out of their behinds.

LOL, these chronicles of Ann are fun to read!

I think Ann is stuck in the dicksand!

I agree with your assessment as to why she is just now worrying about visitation with her son's father. She is definitely trying to prove that she is a fantastic mom and supports father's rights! Wow! I would be annoyed at this point as well!

OMG I would want to scream from the rooftops how much of a horrible mistake she is making. I understand she won't listen to you because her situation is "NOT LIKE THAT"
We all have lived it. Went into stephell with the rose colored glasses and thought that LOVE could conquer all. And then we were smacked back into reality once the BM went ape shit over the fact that we are taking her place, or the Skids hated us for taking their father away (in their own minds. OR the best one, when her SO totally throws her under the bus as to not make the little snowflakes hate him.
Yup...She has a long way to fall.

I can honestly say (and hate to admit) I didn't like DH's kids from the beginning. I thought they were loud, disruptive and stand offish to me and my BS. I kept making excuses like the fact that we all needed more time together or it would just take time for all the kids to get used to living together.
I didn't confess that there were nights (when we lived in separate towns) that I made excuses not to come see Dh because I didn't want to be around his children. Or I would not come see him on the weekends he worked because I knew he was wanting me to watch his spawn and I didn't want to.
I love my DH and I am glad we stuck it out and made it work but I would probably have waiting about 5 years before marrying him until most of the kids were gone and out of the house. This poor woman will learn the hard way for sure.

She sounds annoying AF. Even when I semi-liked skids, I didn't talk about them (unless explicitly asked) cause hellllooo they aren't my kids and that's weird.

Honestly, I love hearing stories about Ann. But, maybe Ann has captured that elusive unicorn? It's highly doubtful but for Ann's sake, I hope that hole she's stuck her head in is mighty deep!

Ghost, Thank you again for the update. It is really freaking weird she is going on and on about these skids that she barley knows. I hardly ever talk about my SO's son with anyone other than like my parents. I do not gush about him and I am 31. Your friend sounds like she got some issues going on and it maybe the later but it is a little concerning that now all the sudden her own kid like does not exist, she is setting that kid up to resent the hell out of these kids and her new SO.

I know it has been said but I really can not fathom that someones dick is that magical if literally puts a woman into a trance like this. She makes him and his kids sound like the shoot rainbows out there butts and do nothing wrong.

Goodluck in tuning it out. Maybe get those industrial ear muffs, next time she starts talking just put them on. LOL.

I agree with Heaven she got some biological clock that they alarm is RINGING like non-stop for her.

"Is she trying to get rid of her kid, or is she trying to prove what a fantastic mom she is by showing Hot Tommy how she believes a father's involvement is super important?"

Ding ding ding!!!

The whole time dh and I courted he did all the driving for pickup and dropoff. That was four trips a week for him -- two of them round trips so a total of 6 trips one way. Every week. She lives 25 miles away from him.

But suddenly around the time we got married, BM had an old boyfriend resurface. He was griping to her about how his ex wife doesn't do any of the driving for exchanging their kid. Guess who suddenly started schlepping the kids in her own car once a week? Ha!

Ann, meet my skids' BM. Peas in a pod.

Ann has switched from gushing over Hot Tom to gushing over his kids. It's likely that Hottie Tommy is going to feel ignored by Ann and use her as the nanny while he's goes and finds someone else to gush over him. Ann is already acting like a mom to skids while ignoring her own child and now her boyfriend.

The custody alteration is probably many things, one of which may be to get her kid out of her hair so she has more time for Tom,his kids and babymaking, Tom may be encouraging this. Ann may want her kid to have a relationship with his dad like Tom has with his kids which is unlikely is Biodad has been absent and uninterested most of the kids life.

I just adore the Ann updates. Makes me feel better about my initial state of DIC, that I now suffer the permanent effects of. Oh, the bliss that comes with being as blind and ignorant as, Ann is, right now.

and so it begins... When you become a SM - you have to sell all your own children, cause you will not have time for them.. Ann is definitely falling into this trap.

There's nothing you can do now for this friend... she's on her own now, let her talk about the snow flakes, hell I would even record her secretly, and if she comes back after 6 months saying anything nasty about them... I will play the recording to her... and say oh shut the hell up.

I think Ann is knowing she's making all the mistakes and she sees all the red flags you pointed out, now she's trying to convince herself she's right and you are wrong..

Ha she's in the "honeymoon" phase of Skids... 3 months? Give it 2-3 more months and we will see her on here talking about what little sh*ts they are and googling how much xanax is too much to add to your nightly alcohol intake. This reminds me of new interns that come into a company full of hope and energy. I just want to tell them "I see your soul is not yet crushed and your dreams go out the window.. let's work on that." 6 months later you see the fire die lol.

I think you can def have a good relationship with your skids but as much as I love mine... I am mentally selling them on ebay at least 3 times a day.

And yes, I totally think that she is trying to embrace the "we can all be a happy family and live happily ever after" view with her own son. My guess is she probably sees the BM acting all psycho town and doesn't want to be placed in the same category as her with her own child.

All of this dick talk has me laughing like a damn hyena. I snaughled, snorted, a shot coffee fire out of my nose! SODIC?? ROFLMAO!!!