Gotta Love the Double Standard
I've noticed something the past couple of years in my situation, and it seems to be pretty common among most of our blended families.
SF is a parent figure and should be respected and be allowed to discipline and be alone with the kids. I'm just DH's wife and therefore invisible and irrelevant.
The SSs' stepsister is their sibling. My BS17 is just a kid who lives at their father's house.
BM, SF, SSs, and stepsister are a family. DH, me, BS and SSs are not, or at least not the "real" family.
DH was always required to inform BM of every little thing, but she has never afforded him the same respect.
BM is upset about the fact that DH and I did fun things with the kids but if we didn't, she's have a problem with that too.
I'm just musing today because I'm incredibly bored. What other double standards has everyone else noticed?
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BM keeping SS away from FH at
BM keeping SS away from FH at all costs and then calling FH a deadbeat dad.
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BM getting almost $1200 in child support for one child and calling FH a deadbeat dad.
My kids are meant to be seen
My kids are meant to be seen and not heard and they have strict rules. SS is allowed to do whatever the F he wants, whenever the F he wants, however the F he wants.
**Keep in mind we have custody off all 3 and SS and BS are the same age.
BM claimed SD on her taxes
BM claimed SD on her taxes one year when the court ordered DH could. Caused his 3,000 dollar return to be delayed for 2 months.
DH got a new job, CS payment wasn't there until the due date (usually she gets 1/2 on 1 paycheck and 1/2 on the other). She said she wasn't going to let DH talk to or see SD until he payed it.
the tax stuff "wasn't her fault". But DH's wages not being withheld yet was totally his fault & in return he couldn't talk to or see SD.
It was totally rude for DH & I to move in together 5 months before our wedding. However, BM's other kids BD, lives with them. They are not married, not even engaged, not even thinking of getting married. Also, when SD was an infant DH had her one day BM had her the other (they use to live in the same town). BM would take SD 2 hours a way on her nights with her to go see who is now her other kid's BD. He lived in an apartment with 3 other grown men she didn't know. & she brought SD into that situation. But it was totally rude for us to live together 5 months before our wedding.
BM thinks "it's not fair" that I don't have to do pick ups/drop offs when DH isn't available. Excuse me BM, I don't have kids.
GUBM insisted that she had to
GUBM insisted that she had to meet me before SD could ever be around me, nevermind that by that point, she had already moved five other people into FDH's townhouse to live with her and SD without so much as mentioning the plan to FDH. And then there's the fact that GUBM has moved random people FDH has never met in his life in with her and SD after they moved to South Jersey. But, she MUST MUST MUST meet every person that he dares to bring into SD's life. She almost tried to bully him into letting her meet my family...but FDH just laughed in her face about that one.
Yup!! BM insisted on meeting
Yup!! BM insisted on meeting me before I met the kids, but when I offered, she completely ignored me. I have yet to meet her three years later.
However, she MARRIED SF and moved him in before the kids met him!
Hypocritical much???
I kind of wish I never met
I kind of wish I never met GUBM. Then I wouldn't have a stupid face and stupid voice to go with the stupidity.
GUBM doesn't make sure that
GUBM doesn't make sure that SD talks to FDH when she's with her and, in fact, interferes with convos by making sure she's around and talking over SD, but, when SD is with us, she blows up her cell phone on the daily with texts and calls.
SD is not to have any sort of relationship with me, but, she must be besties with anyone GUBM brings into her life.
And, much like your BM, Ghost, GUBM hates it when we do fun things with SD but, if we don't go out of our way to do something fun with SD, she whines and complains to SD about how unfair it is for us to not have our lives come to a screeching halt just to entertain SD 24/7 when she's with us.
We deal with the same phone
We deal with the same phone bullcrap here! She is only gone from SD for no more than 2 days at a time on a regular but HAS to call both nights. If DH doesn't answer she calls 1,000,000 times. However, DH goes at most 2 weeks without seeing SD & she won't answer the phone when he calls.
That's probably one of my
That's probably one of my biggest peeves with GUBM - now, don't get me wrong, there's plenty I hate about her, this is just a peeve hahaha.
She used to blow up FDH's phone if SD didn't respond to each and every contact attempt, but, she's since stopped that because she has convinced SD that she doesn't need to respect our house rules about excessive cell phone use.
Can you say textbook alienation, GUBM??
dumbass pitched a bitch fit
dumbass pitched a bitch fit when i slept ON THE COUCH at MIL's before DH and I got married.
she then proceeds to take a few years and rotate the skids back and forth from her other ex H's house (post divorce) and her 'new' boyfriend's house, with skids witnessing her in bed with each.
dh and i are apparently alcoholics cuz we'll have a few beers. she gets her car towed, walks to the convenient store for alcohol and answers the door shitfaced when dh drops a skid off after practice. this is also the one who's now on meth ("but i dont do it every day!")
oh and i almost forgot- i'm an evil bitchy ogre cuz yss (then probably 5 or 6) once told me "i SAID hold ON!" and i informed him he is not to tell me what to do. but she can scream (also when he was around that age) "get your fucking ass in the car NOW" and she's MOTY.
at least all that's in the past now, she's figured out that i'm not evil, i'm not out to take her kids, i am good to them and take care of them, and i'm not going away. so it's been all good for the last few years.
MIL on the other hand, has done the opposite. i'm an angel sent from heaven for her son, the most perfect gift he could have in his life. but now i'm and evil skank whore bitch because i told YSS (age 9! at the time) to please remove his naked booty from the counter that we eat off of and please go put some shorts on. oh the horrors!!! but she can go after them with a switch when they mouth off too much.