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BM's Text to DH

GhostWhoCooksDinner's picture

"I would like to transfer SSociopath15 to MyCity School. Please give your input."

Since when does BM want DH's input on anything? Oh. Right. Since CPS is investigating us due to her and SSociopath's concocted abuse story and her, therefore, trying to look like a decent mother.

Why now, three weeks into third quarter? She's so transparent and doesn't even realize it. We're halfway through the school year. Why not wait till a new school year starts? Here's why. SSociopath got his report card Tuesday. It was abysmal. Every grade has plummeted since his move to BM's. He's failing four classes. His effort and attitude marks were all 4s and 5s, which are the worst. Wednesday, DH called SS to confront him on his grades. SS wasn't too happy with that, but of course no responsibility. Why should he? BM holds him accountable for nothing. Every problem he has is someone else's fault. And this is why she wants him in a different school.

1. The teachers "have it out" for him. They don't like him.
2. The standards at OurSchool are "too rigorous." They "expect too much."

I can't tell you how many times we've heard this. And none of it's true. SS's teachers always have liked him. He can put on an act as well as she can. He snowed every one of his teachers, convinced every one of them that he was a nice kid who should have multiple chances to turn in his work. As far as standards go, any public school in our state will have the same standards, same graduation requirements, same sequence of courses. So #2 is crap she's convinced herself of in her mind to justify SS's complete lack of effort.

Nothing is SSociopath's fault. No, his lack of studying and doing homework is someone else's fault. Always has been. And it's not BM's fault for failing to parent her kid.

And BM's biggest reason for switching schools now? Because she thinks that DH won't have access to his grades if she switches him. Wrong. She may have physical custody now, but DH isn't giving up joint legal. He'll have every right to his son's grades and academic information, and he'll continue to call him out on his poor performance. He's not stupid or learning disabled; he's lazy as hell and doesn't give a crap. Why BM thinks moving schools will get DH off the kid's back is beyond me. This is typical BM and her magical thinking.

All that being said, DH is glad she wants to switch him. He doesn't want to live here, he doesn't get the benefit of staying at the school he's been going to since kindergarten. He doesn't want to switch. We know that much. He actually admitted the only reason he kept up visitation as long as he did was so he could stay at his school. So, DH is totally on board. He warned SS that this would happen. So be it.

He'll be switching from one of the top ten schools in the state to one with one of the lowest graduation rates and lowest standardized test scores in the state. A school with uniformed police officers and metal detectors due to the drug and crime problem. It won't matter. He'll flunk out anyway the way he's going. Karma's a bitch, kid.

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StepKat's picture

I know I'm being a bitch right now (I'm running on less than 3 hours of sleep right now) but let his ass fail. There's only so much you and your DH can do to get him to do the right thing in school.

GhostWhoCooksDinner's picture

DH is hoping his ass crashes and burns HARD. Then he can say, "See? Told us so!" The kid needs to fall flat on his ass or he'll never wake up.

Jsmom's picture

Sad thing is I wonder if he will ever correlate that his grades dropped when he was with BM. My SD was the same thing, her grades were good when we had 50/50 and when she was full time at BM's she damn near didn't graduate. She is at college now, the only one that would take her 1.2 GPA. Just a matter of time, before she gets kicked out.

GhostWhoCooksDinner's picture

Nope. Never. Or at least he'll never be able to admit it to himself because that would mean Fad was right and Mom was wrong. And M can't be wrong.

GhostWhoCooksDinner's picture

She knows she can't blame DH and his "ridiculous standards" and "academic pressure" anymore. He's been with her and her alone the entire second quarter. Since she can't blame herself, she has to blame someone. It must be the school's fault. It can't be SSociopath's fault either because he's an extension of her and if he's not perfect, she's not perfect.

GhostWhoCooksDinner's picture

Nope. DH didn't say a word and neither did SA. Next time he calls DH is going to say, "So, I hear you're excited to switch schools. I guarantee you he'll get *crickets.* I'm sure BM made this decision without even running by SS. Like most things when it comes to her, he'll find out at the last minute. "Oh, by the way, SS, make sure you say goodbye to your friends today. It's your last day at ABC School. You start at XYZ School on Monday. Have a great daaaaaaay!"

GhostWhoCooksDinner's picture

And yes, I'm sure she's quite sick of the commute. But she would have kept doing it as long as having him at our school suited her. Now that he's failing, she can no longer send him to our school because it's too hard for him because the standards are too high. :sick: She has to be a "good mom" and get him out of that horrible situation. Wonder what she'll do next quarter when he fails again?

GhostWhoCooksDinner's picture

Subjects: Managing FarmVille, Perfecting MineCrafr, Rolling Joints, Honors Lying and Advanced Manipulation. Straight As for SSociopath!

StepKat's picture

This reminds me of the troll trying to put SD into an expensive private school because SD wouldn't stop talking/flirting with boys and getting into trouble with electronics. How is putting her into a school we can't afford going to help. If the "switch schools" thing a go to 'fix' for issues with BMs?

GhostWhoCooksDinner's picture

Ha! I like that. No, he hasn't responded yet but he will make it very clear that he intends to stay involved in SS's education, even if he can't be involved in any other part of his life. That'll stck in her craw, I'm sure.

GhostWhoCooksDinner's picture

Believe me, our school system is good. It's very good. But at least at the middle school level, they coddled SS and held his hand every step of the way. I don't think any of his middle school teachers had deadlines to turn in assignments. SS would turn stuff in at the end of the quarter that was due the first week. That's how he got by. Doesn't seem like the high school operates that way, thank God. But too rigorous? No more than any other public high school in our state. Anything is "too rigorous" for BM's extension of herself....er, I mean her kid.

GhostWhoCooksDinner's picture

BM has never blamed either of her kids for anything. Ever. It was always DH's fault. Or the school's. Or the neighbor kid's. Or society's. Never hers and never theirs. They are just extensions of her, not individual beings. If they're to blame for anything, then she's to blame. And she is perfect.

DaizyDuke's picture

sounds like SD16! Wanted to come live with us at the end of her 8th grade year because she had no chance of passing. The excuses were that the "teachers sucked" and "everyone was failing" Funny, I have 3 different friends with kids in the same school and same grade as SD16 was. Two of those kids graduated early because they did accelerated classes, another one is graduating this year as a Jr., same reason.. and the last one is a Jr. who cheerleads and is on the high honor roll every.single.marking.period. So apparently the teachers DON'T suck and everyone is NOT failing.

So SD finished her 8th grade year in our district, then got pissed at DH the end of that summer and went back to live with GBM. Went back to original district for 9th grade and by spring break, was failing everything again, mostly for lack of attendance/seat time. So of course she tries to get out of the consequences of failing by coming to live with us again and switching districts yet again. But alas, in NYS in grades 9-12 if you don't have the seat time for Regents classes you are SOL no matter how many times you switch schools. So she failed 9th grade, but rather than go to summer school, DH and SD solution was to have her "double up" her sophomore year. Somehow she managed to pull that off, but still failed Science and Math. So on to her Jr. year where you've seen her abysmal grades and again, it's because the teachers at THIS school suck now and the students in THIS school are also all failing. Whatever.

So now she's in a different STATE with Aunt J, because honestly that is her only hope. She'll never graduate (at 18) in NYS at this point and no way will the princess go to summer school or (gasp) repeat a grade. So really this is her last hope. Eventually she's going to run out of places to run and bridges to burn.

GhostWhoCooksDinner's picture

I'm just so thrilled for you that she's gone! Hallelujah! Fumigate her room and never, ever, ever let her come back. He'll, I don't know if I could have handled that shit. You're a lot tougher than me!

GhostWhoCooksDinner's picture

If that little effer asks to come back and stay with us so he can stay at his current school, I'll laugh his slacked-jawed, pissy little ass right off my property! After his epic betrayal? Nope! Never ever. Go back to that which spawned you, little boy. Until you can grow the eff up and offer some sincere, sustained, heartfelt amends, you're done here.

But that'll never happen. He can't stand up to his mommy, who he towers over by a good foot. She's one scary bitch and she's got his tiny balls in her fanny pack.