I know I'm being selfish....

...but.....

I am irritated. Friday night is usually date night. I had a lovely night planned. Dh is going out with friends in another city tomorrow night. He just rang and said he is on the way home from work and is collecting ss. He said he changed the night during the week because he is going out tomorrow. I got pissy on the phone for him not telling me this before now and he hung up on me. Irritated is so not the word right now, eugh. This is another prime example of why I feel like an outsider in my own family sometimes... I am that unimportant that they do not even have to tell me their plans anymore.

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No you're not being selfish,

No you're not being selfish, your DH is. You have standing plans for Friday nights and he took it upon his selfish self to change those plans without running it by you and not only changed the plans, but did it days ago and just drops it on you today? Jerk.

Thanks for responding. He

Thanks for responding. He really made me feeling it was my problem on the phone but Friday night is our night because we get his kid every weekend starting on sat morning. I am very protective of my Friday nights for this reason!

Every weekend? Oh my hell.

Every weekend? Oh my hell. So what is the plan with SS while he is out on the town Sat night?

Is he trying to send you the

Is he trying to send you the message that spending time with you just isn't important to him? I hope he offers to reschedule date-night PDQ.

That's exactly what it feels

That's exactly what it feels like - spending time with me is not as important to him - that is very clear to see. He has no problem scheduling the kid on "our" time as he would prefer to miss out on that than the kid. I get it , it's just hard for me he's not my kid and I had not geared myself up mentally to having to see him today.

All these big changes he's

All these big changes he's been making this week to show me be cares about me and that I matter too and then this already??? It feels hopeless to be honest. And it annoys me that he gets pissed off with me over this because he doesn't understand why I wouldn't be happy with this.

^^ This. Also ensure you have

This.

Also ensure you have plans for tomorrow evening. Simply not available as a babysitter, dad gets to bring the kid with him wherever he goes or cancel his plans. (short notice shouldnt be an issue according to his actions he doesnt mind last minute change of plans that has a kid falling into his lap and screwing up existing plans!)