What to get an ungrateful 11 yr old stepdaughter

for christmas..I have no idea what this kid is into besides the hating of me and her father, telling lies one after another like its her job. I have 5 kids to buy for at christmas my two children and fhs 3 children. All are easy to buy for but her as usual the difficult one. If any of you have an 11 yr old stepdaughter whos going on 25 I would love to know what you got/getting them for christmas. I was thinking coal but here in Va, I really cant find any and plus I dont think my FH would like that very much }:)

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Get her some marshmallows

Call it snowman poop. }:)

But really. I have a grateful 11 year old who is getting clothes...can never go wrong with that.

"For every ailment under the sun....There is a remedy, or there is none;
If there be one, try to find it; If there be none, never mind it." ~ W.W. Bartley

I'll send ya some coal

That was going to be my suggestion. First I would have to hijack the train that comes through here at 55 MPH, but I'm sure I can do it.

LMAO..

this is why i love this site and all you gals..you brighten up my gloomy days..Thanks harley I'd love some coal and colorado the marshmallow poop wow what I would give to just wrap those up for her..

You have enemies? Good. That means you’ve stood up for something, sometime in your life.
Sir Winston Churchill..

Just get her a bag of charcoal

Then have her cook Christmas dinner with it or go to bed hungry!

I like the little reindeer

they sell at walmart that poop. }:)

um...how about nada?

if shes ungrateful, who the hell cares bc she wont be satisfed anyway!

"Given the right reasons and the right two people, marriage is a wonderful way of experiencing your life."
~the late great George Carlin

hahaha..

I was thinking clothes but her mother doesnt allow her to wear clothes that I chose, or give her. Bc they are clean, nice, classy and opposite of the shit BM wears so clothes is a no go. Tried that awhile back and BM cussed her all to hell for wearing them. She dropped her off in long jeans and a tank top no jacket in 40 degree weather and the bottoms of her pants were wet and she can fit into my clothes so I let her have some jeans and a hoodie and I thought BM was gonna have a heart attack bc I let her wear them. It shouldnt be this hard BM's Im so glad I get along with my ex-husbands wife..

You have enemies? Good. That means you’ve stood up for something, sometime in your life.
Sir Winston Churchill..

Why don't you let dad handle it?

Let her dad get her Christmas gifts. That way if she wants to make snarky comments about what she received, then dear ol' dad can take the blame.

yep, last year I DID NOT

want to get SD16 anything, period! So, I let DH buy her anything he wanted. She ended up with very little, but she could not blame me!

I totally agree....

Let the bio parents worry about what their ingrateful snot has under the tree....Use the time you would have wasted shopping for the snot and do something fun with your own kids...LOL...I never under stood bio moms like that...If the step mom is kind enough to take time to buy for or think of your child (as long as the purchases are not purposley selected to undermine or needles BM)...I think the bm should be appreciative of the step mom doing those things that she doesn't have to do...So many BM's are just bitches about it and act as if the step mom "owes them" and their child for marrying the step brats "daddy"..We don't owe our step kids or their mothers a stinking thing because we married our DH's...

In a perfect world their would be retroactive abortion capabilities. ~ disgusted stepmom

ive got a good one on that note

one time when SD was over i was painting my nails. she saw and liked the pink and wanted hers painted too...so i did.

the next time we got her, which was literally like a day later, her fingernails werent painted anymore.

HOW PETTY. get a life.

"Given the right reasons and the right two people, marriage is a wonderful way of experiencing your life."
~the late great George Carlin

Cell phone charms

My BD has a cell phone and it drives me nuts. Her dad bought it for her without my consent. Anything Jonas Brothers. Messenger bags are hot.

"OCD sucks"
Habit and routine have an unbelievable power to destroy.
--Henri de Lubac

Another thing

My daughter asked for a decent camera this year. I got on search.live.com/cashback and found the one she wanted for a lot cheaper than Target or any other place.

"OCD sucks"
Habit and routine have an unbelievable power to destroy.
--Henri de Lubac

Gasp!!!!!

That's aweful!!! I LOVE IT!! LOL....That sounds like a perfect gift for my smother in law...

In a perfect world their would be retroactive abortion capabilities. disgusted

I have to go with Bella on

I have to go with Bella on this one and say nothing. Tell your FH to worry about it. I am through buying any type of gift for my SDS'.

Inside every cynical person, there is a disappointed idealist. - George Carlin

FInd out some things she

FInd out some things she really wants... and buy one for yourself.

That's EVIL!

I love it. It's a must do for all the ungrateful stepbrats out there! }:)

MSLOAN - This is great!! I

MSLOAN - This is great!! I like how you think my friend!!

Inside every cynical person, there is a disappointed idealist. - George Carlin

Oh man...

That's what SD perceives I do anyway. At DH's class reunion weekend (the one she sneaked out from 2-4 am the night before we went) DH told her she could get a T-shirt from his high school. She demanded a hoodie and he said no. Then I walked up after that, and he asked me if I wanted anything. I picked up the hoodie and he got it for me. SD was PISSED and demanded later why I got the hoodie. He said, "Because SHE is MY WIFE." She continued to complain about it and he said, "OH yeah! And because she wasn't the one sneaking out from 2-4 am last night." That really angers her, because even though it was less than 24 hours later, she requires you forget completely about anything wrong she has done.

I recently bought some new shirts (at Walmart- REAL fancy Henley types, different colors. My weight is still fluctuating after having BD, and all I own are either too tight from before, or too lose from after.) And every time I come down with a different one on, SD says, "Is THAT new? I REALLY like it." It's sort of a compliment. But more that I got something for me and not for her.

We bought her some dress pants this weekend and a few shirts because she has to dress up at school when they have a game. DH told me that SD wanted more than the two pair of pants he let her get because, "I have more than TWO games!" DH told her, "You aren't getting a pair of dress pants for EACH game!" And she responded, "So I am supposed to just look POOR?"

He laughed at her and she got mad.

Whatever happened to thank you for the dress pants Dad?

I think I'm gettin' a new cell phone for Christmas!!!! Because that's what SD is dying to get!

"Om Tare Tutare Ture Mama Ayurpunye Jnana Putin Kuru Svaha"
~Sita Tara Mantra

I agree w/anyone who said...

LET DAD DO IT.

She's ungrateful. So why should YOU go out of your way and spend your precious time & money & energy (not to mention gas) to go out and think about HER?

I used to do all the shopping for all 5 kids.

Not anymore. I just buy for my own two boys now and let DH buy for his ungrateful princesses. Last year was the last straw.

SD16 put a charm bracelet on her list. She just HAD TO HAVE IT. She listed the specific charms she wanted. I went online and found the jewelry store which sold them. I went to the store and pruchased it & it WASN'T CHEAP. I went to the store and picked it up when it was finished two weeks later. I even wrapped it.

She wore it maybe twice. Begrudgingly said "Thank you" to me only when DH made her because he told her about all the hard work I went through to get it for her.

Found it under her bed a week later in pieces.

Never again.

"If you have never been hated by a child, you have never been a parent."
-Bette Davis

OMG 5TEENS - what did your

OMG 5TEENS - what did your DH do about it when you found it in pieces?

Inside every cynical person, there is a disappointed idealist. - George Carlin

I never told him

It just wasn't worth it. Somehow, as always, I'D end up being the "bad guy," once again, blowing things out of proportion... so I just did nothing.

And this year, I'm not lifting a finger to do anything.

Four months after Christmas, she turned 16 and wanted a big "Sweet 16" party. Of course, she wanted Daddy to plan and pay for it (BM certainly wasn't going to shell out any of HER money). I didn't lift a finger to do anything for THAT, either. In fact, two days before it, when she threw a FIT at him and screamed in his face, "Oh yeah, well I don't even want this STUPID PARTY anymore!" DH had to literally beg me to attend.

So I think he knows full well that when it comes to the girls, I'm not doing a bloody thing- and most especially for his ungrateful, hurtful, awful middle spawn.

"If you have never been hated by a child, you have never been a parent."
-Bette Davis

Sounds familiar...

Sounds like my step brat...The kids doesn't appreciate or take care of anything purchased for her... She doesn't break her own things purposly like she does everyone elses but she just won't take care of anything..She is a dirty, lazy, slob and her room is always a disgusting filthy mess...I used to ride her about her room and make her clean it every day..But not anymore...I leave that to DH...

She will want something and then when she gets it she will use it once or twice or not at all and its found on the floor, under her bed, or broken ect...Thats one of the other reasons that I don't buy her things..Spending money on her is like throwing money into the trash...SHe has been wanting her room redone in asian decor for about three years now...But I am not going to go through all that time and effort to create her a nice bed room so it can look like the inside of an abandoned crack house with in a week.

She always whines because both my kids have nice rooms that are painted, themed, and decorated really nicly and hers is not...Well, my kids take care of their things..In fact the only time their things are damaged is when the snot sneaks into their room and "accidentally" breaks their things. I told DH that if he wants to give his "angel" the room she desires then he will have to do all the buying, painting, and decorating...I'm not wasting the time or money on it.. I call her room decore right now "the Oscar motif" because her room reminds me of the inside of a garbage can..LOL

In a perfect world their would be retroactive abortion capabilities. ~ disgusted

Once again...

Were our SD's separated at birth?

My SD has thrown every gift I've given her at her wall shattering them all(which I also painted and re-did her room for her. Never again as it has lovely dents in it.)

I only get her unbreakables now. I also stopped writing nice notes in her cards and took the ones I had done to put back for her later should she ever stop this craziness and actually appreciate them.

"Om Tare Tutare Ture Mama Ayurpunye Jnana Putin Kuru Svaha"
~Sita Tara Mantra

Ok. SD17 wants an HDTV with VCR/DVD

"To Thine Own Self Be True" William Shakesphere

SD13 originally asked for a laptop! Ok, let's break the bank for these two spoiled kids. I explained to SD13 (14 in 2 weeks) that that way pretty selfish. So she downgraded it to wanting a Touchscreen IPOD. Oh, yeah. So between his two kids, they want over $500.00 worth of gifts, and that's just the big one. Never mind the "little" things they want along with those.

H and I had agreed on $200/per kid for xmas. So last week, he tells me instead he wants to spend an entire paycheck on Christmas instead! This is the man who asked me to put his $4,000 back tax debt on MY credit card. I, of course, declined. He still owes the $4,000.00. the house will probably go up for tax sale. What a moron. But let's make sure his darlins' have their hearts desire, which they will promptly break within a month.

The sence of entitlment...

Thats just ridiculous!! There is no reason a 13/14 year old kid need their own lap top or own computer at all in my opinion!!! We have a "family" computer in the dinning room where it can easily be monitered and thats the only computer our kids are allowed to use.. I didn't own my own computer until I was 30 years old..And I didn't have my own cell phone until then either...I see no reason that children under the age of 16 need to have either...

My daughter (almost 17)got a cell phone when she was 16 and a half and purchased it with her own money from her own job..She also pays for her own minutes for that cell phone..She is now saving for her own computer...

In a perfect world their would be retroactive abortion capabilities. ~ disgusted

I like your daughter!

What a good kid!

"Om Tare Tutare Ture Mama Ayurpunye Jnana Putin Kuru Svaha"
~Sita Tara Mantra

Well, you could get her a

Well, you could get her a 'gratitude journal', or make a donation to a childrens organization in her name.

Oh, vick, I so needed that laugh.

"To Thine Own Self Be True" William Shakesphere

Get her some community outreach service project!

Teach her the valuable lessons of service and gratitude. What could be more charitable on your part?

I would also tell her that she gets to pick out a few more presents, then have her wrap them and donate them. I sorta did this when my sons snooped one Christmas. I pulled out everything they found, told them to take a good look, had them help me wrap them up and had them take them to school for the toy drive.

They never snooped again.

Maybe SD won't complain again if she has to see some of her potential gifts go to someone more in need!

"Om Tare Tutare Ture Mama Ayurpunye Jnana Putin Kuru Svaha"
~Sita Tara Mantra

Hmmm

Well if you don't want to just have your husband do it - his job not yours - then buy her a mop and some spic and span and a bar of soap to wash out her mouth with!

Skids want TV's & IPODs

"To Thine Own Self Be True" William Shakesphere

And at first I thought I'd like to get them a book on manners. However, I've given this great thought, and decided they probably would not comprehend the contents.

Therefore, what I would like to give SD17

A new home! Very generous of me? Not so much. It would have to be a small one room cabin, with an outhouse, and no running water. And be very very far from my home. As in perhaps-Japan? In a community full of females.Thereby she would learn the value of working, and perhaps learn to value some of the members of her sex.

For SD13, I would gift a bit of self esteem. And magically she would become a true daughter to her father.

To H...well, I think you all know what I would like to gift him (hint: it's not delivered by Santa Claus):evil:

Yep, been in the Baileys again tonite!

Ha ha ha ha ha

I am going to tell DH that one!

We would like to give her a year at a troubled teen boarding school!

"Om Tare Tutare Ture Mama Ayurpunye Jnana Putin Kuru Svaha"
~Sita Tara Mantra

hell id like a new tv and ipod too

wtf is wrong w these spoiled brats??? oh wait, nevermind...guilty, idiotic, assinine parents. got it. barf.

"Given the right reasons and the right two people, marriage is a wonderful way of experiencing your life."
~the late great George Carlin

Christmas

I know exactly how you feel. My SD lies about EVERYTHING and loves to lie about me. It is a constant, nothing more frustrating. I forget what it was like when we all got along--its a sad thing.
I told everyone "well I would get her some coal but I am not sure she deserves it" they laughed but I was somewhat serious!!
I just got SD (9years going on 25) clothes, hair ties, necklaces, and sandals for the summer. These are things she needs and wants. It saves me from buying it anyway, right? And she still likes them.

Leave that to her dad....

Does your DH do the xmas shopping and gift wrapping for your Bio Kids or do you do it all???? I don't lift a finger to buy things for my step brat or even to wrap her gifts...That is exclusivley her dad's responsibility... He certianly doesn't do the shopping and wrapping for my bio childrens gifts so I see no reason I should do so for his..I'm his wife, not his secretary or his personal assistant.

In a perfect world their would be retroactive abortion capabilities. ~ disgusted stepmom

My FH helps with the shopping

for all our kids. He is really helpful about all of it, and I actually feel bad for him. Bc his kids never call him for anything his bday fathers day thanksgiving. My kids always calls him if they arent here for a certain holiday/bday. Im sure his boys would call if their BM would let them. But his daughter she wouldnt as much give him the time of day. She doesnt like daddy now that daddy is with me and wont buy into her lies about me. The last time she came over she said I hit her in the head and made a knot. Well good thing I wasnt alone with this child any at all, I was so far up her fathers ass that night he would of had to take a laxative to shit me out. Because I know how this brat is and now he knows. So he got onto her for lying and she did her whole crying things but daddy was like nope you cant tell lies on ppl and most def. not one that could get someone in serious trouble. So he is to the point he really doesnt care one way or the other if she gets something. I mean he loves his daughter but I guess he is tired of how she acts. Noone can really tolerate her not even my FH parents.

You have enemies? Good. That means you’ve stood up for something, sometime in your life.
Sir Winston Churchill..

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