My new wife and I have been married for nearly 1 year.  My 10 year old son lives with us.  Her adult children have nothing to do with him or me.  They shun us anytime we're all together and one of them is just flat mean.  Anytime they're around My son and I feel uncomfortable and unwanted.  I have tried talking to my wife about this and she asks "what am I suppose to do"?.  With the holidays coming up it really concerns me that my son and I are not going to feel at home due to the fact of the large blended family we now have and he and I are the "new guys".