He’s backkk. All week DH has been planning non-stop for all the special things he’s going to do with SD15 and the boys (SS9 and SS7) while his grandma is visiting next week.

SD15 is going to be flying back for a long weekend (he’s letting her miss school. I hate when parents do that) so she can be here when his grandma is visiting. It’s been over 8 months since SD15 has been here, but I won’t let her in my home until she apologizes so DH is bending over backwards trying to make plans that don’t involve anyone being in our home or SD15 being anywhere near me.

Or rather- DH failed to drag his butt to the car and make him come.

DH has his boys every other weekend. He drove out to pick them up (they live about 2 hours away) and SS7 threw a tantrum that his dad wasn’t going to take him to a taekwondo tournament on Saturday. (Note, this isn’t a real tournament. It’s something they have for little kids at his taekwondo school where everyone gets a trophy)

Last summer I banned SD15 from my home and told DH she couldn’t return until she fulfills a list of very sensible requirements: apologize to me and my son for her actions, sign a Home Rules Contract and act like she wants to be part of our family. SD absolutely refused to do any of these and has been living with her aunt & uncle in another state ever since.

It’s been a terrible, terrible week thanks to SD15 and I keep coming back to this question - why does DH and my family have to suffer thanks to BM’s mistakes raising a kid that is so messed up that she’s beyond hope? Her BM shouldn’t even had kids to begin with. She couldn’t support them and she was mentally unstable. Child support was her main source of income.