I've finally decided to talk to BF and tell him that I am going to emotionally distance myself from his children AND if he can't stand up to BM and all of her bs, as well as his manipulative child (SD16), I am leaving. I need to have a voice in this house, too. He is coming home tonight from being on the road for three days and we are going to talk!!! I'm tired of sitting around here feeling a mess all the time b/c I'm not supposed to have any input on anything in his opinion. He's going to grow a set of you know what and take charge of his children and his ex or we are done.