We talked last night for the first time but really just ended up arguing. He's not moving back as I've not agreed to that without counselling. I also told him he needs to sell his house as I feel insecure he has a bolt hole to run back to. He's really hurt me, I am thinking every time his kids start a conflict he will go running back to them over and over. At least he tells me he understands how I feel and that I was right about what I have been saying about his two being too needy and causing trouble between us, he sees them differently now he's spent almost two weeks living with them. He's admitted to feeling a lot of guilt because their mum died. He thinks by giving them money and not being hard on them he can somehow make up for that. He's scared of losing them so lets them get away with more than they should. His daughter and son have both emailed me today saying sorry for how they have been acting and telling me their dad is really unhappy at the house. He's gone away to think about things. We were engaged a couple of years ago but I gave him the ring back over a year ago, due to all these issues going on.